An age old question

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Is legal, so its up to that person to decide as an adult what is best for them.   I think for me guys between 35 40 are good as they know a thing or two , but so do a lot of 20 something guys   as the only time I interact with a man of rhp is in the bedroom then is no problem for me if the chemistry is there.   relationships are different   I have a few female friends very happy married for over 12 years and one has a husband 25 years younger and they are still going strong.   My daughters are adults, they can date who they like

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Typical Current Affair type fodder really...... I guess there arent any dole bludger, diet or neighbourhood dispute stories running right now.Im not going to apologize for the following remarks..... so dont waste your scorn in this direction .... but after having seen the people involved in the ad.......... they all deserve eachother.DGPS... HOWEVER..... as a supposedly responsible adult, to the minors she was engaging with.... she showed a distinct lack of judgement.

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  N4November

  13 years ago

  This woman sent this child who was 15 at the time, sexually explicit text messages. He soon began living with her at age 16. Sounds like grooming to me and the hallmark of a paedophile!! If it was a young girl and the same happened, I have no doubt that most would see it for what it is! Why the double standard?! Apparently the police aren't going to pursue any further enquiries. This woman/predator has young children of her own. Child services would be my next stop. Again, if this was a guy with young children, I'm sure more would be happening to protect the child/children. Most mothers are perfect lol, but there are always a few throw-backs in any type of group! I think she is a predator, period. I see that 'Braveheart' wants to pass through the senate a law that maintains the age of consent of 16 but applies a caveat of no more than 10 years older of age between sexual partners/relationships before the age of 18. I think this is actually a great idea!! So a 33 year old guy can't legally 'date' a 17 year old girl. I think it shows common sense that brain development/life experiences are vastly different to be considered fully consenting between those two people. It will be interesting to see how other people interpreted the story.

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  N4November

  13 years ago

  Re the younger man? I was the same as you, quite closed to the idea of sleeping with a younger man. But my experiences has shown me that you can't generalise or be biased towards anyone! I've met some incredible immature and selfish 40 plus men in my time! Age does not command or earn them my immediate respect! Whereas, I have been equally amazed at the maturity, empathy and passion that many young guys have had!! Emotional intelligence is individual as the body that accompanies him/her. You have obviously connected to younger guys to actually go and meet them in person, so why fight that? My advice is to go with your intuition and if he's hotter, fitter and has the stamina of a bull - grab him by the horns ffs!! My partner of 2 years plus (we live together as well) turned 30 last year and is 11 years younger than me. I feel in love with him, not his age and vice versa. I've never been happier!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Baygirl2315 hit the nail on the head... character not candles on the birthday cake counts when judging the fitness of a relationship (with the obvious caveat of the limit of the law).   And a persons preference is their own... I have an age range in my profile of 35-50, that doesn't mean I wouldn't date/sleep with someone who is 30 or 60, it just sets a starting range. (tho I recently have developed a definite taste for 40something year olds... don't know why)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I think ideally, so long as its legal and everybody consents, it doesn't (or shouldn't) matter. Having said that, I see young men at the gym who are in their late teens and early twenties and while I don't mind appreciating their beautiful bodies, when I think about anything sexual (I mean, who could blame a girl, right), I go into 'mummy mode' and they seem to instantly 'grow younger' and morph into my young sons!! Lol....that is instant death to my libido! So in theory, age gaps are not a problem, but for me, I don't think I could play with a man who still has a baby face! Mrs Inadditionto xxx - Posted from rhpmobile

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  wannabyummymummy

  13 years ago

  mischeviouslad i have to agree with you on the whole current affair thing Without a doubt the ''lady" in question on that show was a paedophile not a 'cougar' and if the role was reversed and she was a man the reaction from police would undoubtably be very different, and it is a sad sad state of our legal system that we have such double standards where this kind of thing is concerned.The thing is though that the segment sparked the 'age gap' conversation more than anything.Really i guess for me it is about maturity rather than age as a number though i could not imagine any 18 year old that would be 'mature' enough for me to be attracted to them.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  its simple....at 15 he's under the age of consent, and as such is a child...she's indeed a sexual predator, and in my mind ranks with those scum who would molest a child, and they are the worst of the worst..., as parents to 5 children who were all this age at one time....youngest is only 17...we find this sort of behaviour shocking...if it were our child? she'd face the full weight of the law.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  She was an absolute embarrassment to women all around the world!! She was already married to an 18 yr old, when she started sleeping with the 16 yr old ( who i think was 15 when it started) What they see in her is beyond me....I agree that she isnt a cougar, she sought out these boys, and seduced them away from their homes. I have a lovely male friend who is 18 yrs my junior, and we are very close but as much as we would love to be serious, and spend more time together weve had to be practical about it, and cool off to being friends, as there were just too many things against us

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Only just seen this thread, but Mrs SinS and I talked about this alot on the way to work the day after it was aired. If it had been a guy doing that all hell would have broken loose, and if the boy really was 15 when it started and it can be proved that they had sex, then she should be prosecuted.It's a very difficult law to change though, when it comes to consenting individuals who are both over the age of consent (notice I didn't call them adults, as it's hard to think of a 16 year old being an adult!)Being really blunt about it, if you can drink,vote and fight for your country at 18, then I think it's only fair for you to be able to choose your own partner. The grey area is that between 16 and 18 in my opinion. The line in the sand was drawn at 16, but maybe for that 2 year period between 16th and 18th birthdays there should be some additional protection for young people. How that would be policed I have no idea, but would be interested to hear some suggestions.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Good to see bugger all biasing here..   I had a reasonably long term relationship with an 18 year old when I was 37.. Sort of won her in a pub fight.. and she had a child to me. Recently had the exquisite attendances of a 34 year old.. but.. that is bragging.. and has nothing to do with this topic Have an extended family member who scoored a 30 something woman as a teenager.. and is still with her.. doing well, and both a balanced couple.   Honestly.. there are predators out there.. male and female - so, yes, age is simply numbers, BUT predatory bahaviour is still predatory behaviour.   I reckon each incident is to be measured for its own merit

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  16 year old boys are just babies. There is absolutely no way I could or would touch a child of that age and if any one of you "mature" adults think otherwise, go spend a bit of time with teens. For a start their brain is not even fully developed and for boys especially, their bodies still have a lot if growing to do. Mentally and physically a 16 year old boy is still a child. Leave the children to play with their own age group!!!- Posted from rhpmobile

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