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Any advice for newbies
May 10 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
First of don't do it if your having trouble with your partner and think this is the answer,, this should be cream on the cake so to speak,,lol,, Take your time meeting the right people , but can come a pain after awhile forever getting drinks and they are not what you are looking for. But as customer69 said be honest. My wife & i have been together for 26 years and love being together and this is like having first dates over again, so is alot of fun. Be upfront on what you want as this will save a lot timwasters bugger you if they don't fit what you are looking for. So good luck and enjoy those norty times. J & D
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RHP User
16 years ago
Go to swingers clubs and parties, that way you get to meet lots of couple face to face and hear first hand about CI is a good night out in Brisbane - sometimes it can be quiet but always a lot of fun. We don't msn because it never really leads anywhere but other people love to chat first on msn. good luck
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey everyone Thanks for all the advice. Will try to put it all into practice. Have been meaning to get to CI for ages now, just have never gotten round to it. Will have to organise a baby sitter and head in there and check it out.
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RHP User
16 years ago
some good advice :) go to a swing club or meet n greet nights...talk to different people who have been thru it already. We have spent the last year testing msn/sites/clubs and casual coffee meets.. and yes, same...msn is handy, but most people dont progress past talking about it? zzz so now we email briefly then move to a quick fun ph call. If they can string a sentence together and arnt too far away we go for coffee/wine and keep it light..dont make it a job interview ;) have fun...chat with your partner after each adventure and go slowly till you are BOTH ready for next step. You will meet people who want to jump you in 1st night...which can be great, but like forplay, alot of the thrill is in the lead up so dont miss that.. have fun..dress up - meet people you wouldnt normally date...keep it exciting :> Neo
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RHP User
16 years ago
We've found there's more than a couple of fake profiles on here....we usually give priority to verified profiles and validations, although bear in mind that Guest profiles are unable to validate another profile, so if the couple or single you're interested in has only been meeting up with guest profiles, they won't be able to be validated by those people. Mind you, we've met others that are neither validated nor verified, so it's more a case of exercising some caution rather than ruling them out altogether.M
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2more4fun
16 years ago
3somefantasy4U - actually you'll find that only verified people can validate others so even if you're a member, you can't validate people unless you're photo verified. As you said though, it's just a guidelines for us too. We're probably just a touch more inclined to meet people without length phone chats/messages if someone is verified.As for newbie etiquette, I think the only thing we could ask of a new couple is to ensure that you've talked things over well and are open, both to each other and to the people you meet. If you're unsure in any way about playing with people but may want to dabble in same room sex, be upfront about it. Honesty is definitely the key.Also just reassure yourselves that it's OK to be disappointed with meets/plays. Your first meet/play may not be ideal but it's a start and you'll learn from it. It's like having sex for the first time. It's not always great but it's gets better with the right people and attitude. It is good to have rules also and work out from the beginning what you will/won't do with other people AND be prepared for those rules to change over time. Go slow and have fun ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree and the validation process is almost a farce! I noted a validation that in fact indicated the verified member had NEVER actually met the person they were validating ??? WTF ..... but had chatted to them in the chat rooms ! All the rules that have been given to you by the good people here are valuable. I have been playing with my partner (missnaughty1975) for 3 years now we have met some good and not so good people here. Its a blast have fun and play safe. Brae
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RHP User
16 years ago
One thing to be tolerant of the phenominon known as RHP universal measurements.... For instance RHP years... a person can easily be 10 years older than the age they show on their profile... some people even have different ages on their dofferent profiles... you know.. younger for their singles profile so that they can try and attract the juicy young babes.... and a little older for their couples profiles so that they can attract more experienced swingers... of course, then some change their ages for a joke... so that they squeeze into their people's age restrictions.. all above board of course... So .. dont take the age indicators as anything serious. Then there's RHP inches... you guessed it.. dick size. The universal method of measurement is toilet paper roll ... if it can't fit in there.. it's "above average" thickness hehe and of course anything longer than a toiletpaper roll is at least 8+ RHP inches. then.. there's RHP body image measurements..... Athletic for example... is anyone who can root for longer than 3 minutes without wheasing... The jury is still out on what "Ample" means... but let's just say for now that it is a sensitive topic... so whatever you do .. don't ask!! Well enjoy. Hugs Stalky
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DonnaBrett
16 years ago
We've been swinging for over 10 years & have seen it all.. LOL...so....1. Make sure this is what you BOTH want2. Be clear BEFORE you meet anyone what your limits(if any) are3. Be honest with people4. Don't msn as a first means of communication. If someone isn't willing to talk on the phone, they're not serious5. Don't meet anyone without seeing facial photos6. Always practice safe sex!!7. If you have a bad experience with someone, don't dwell on it. Move on..the next time will be better8. Never allow jealousy to creep in to your relationship...it's only sex after all.9. Try & get to some private parties...much more fun, Clubs can be full of show ponies at times.10. Lastly...just have FUN!!!!
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QLDtwo4fun
14 years ago
With regard to their point 1, 2 and 8. Work out what you both want to experience, and what you are prepared to let your partner experience. Then work out some rules to play by. We have two, we always play together and no one takes one for the team. Enjoy the journey together, we have.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I compiled some of the information I've learned in the lifestyle and made a 30 page ebook. It's free, purely designed to provide information for newbies, curious and anyone else who's interested. I trust you find the information helpful, it's written from our perspective.
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RHP User
14 years ago
...of the wonder book ?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I strongly agree with sexy country couple,go to swingers party in your local area and see how it feels. We oftern go to the couples club in sydney,it's a great place for old pro's and newbies to start of that lifestyle. If it's a good swingers club you should be allowed to go in and walk around and see whats it's like before you jump in.But be very very carefull about what you are doing, this lifestyle is'nt for everyone.You have to be 1000% sure this is what you both want because if either one of you is only doing it to please the other one, then you are on a down hill roller coaster from there.Iv'e seen to many couples break up because of that reason.And trust me it's not worthwhile loosing the one you love over some sex. cheers Mr cns
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RHP User
14 years ago
the thread was begun...way back in may 2010.....and the OP isnt an active member any more....another dead thread trawled up from the past?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' the thread was begun...way back in may 2010.....and the OP isnt an active member any more....another dead thread trawled up from the past? oops...... some of the advice is valid, but doesn't apply universally tho....we are all a little different in how our experiences drive us..... we dont do parties for example......because of past experience, so prefer much more intimate surroundings.....coffee clubs for example.....and casual 'no expectation' meet and greets..........
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RHP User
14 years ago
why has a post from 2010 been rehashed????
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RHP User
14 years ago
Why revive this thread? I assume,because Ozefun is letting people know about their ebook..sort of...x Hugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think it might have been deleted from the post. It's purely designed to provide information for those looking to start and perhaps share some of our experiences. swingaus dot com .I'm not saying it's the bible (and infant some have criticised come of our recommendations) but it's our perspective so it is right for us.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Guys, the thread was not re hashed by me, MrsPeachyPear and others responded well before me. I just throw in the info and if it helps someone, then all good. No stress ;-)
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