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Any other demisexuals out there?

July 31 2019

I am just curious if there is anyone else who does not feel anything sexual towards anyone unless there is some form intimacy involved? My other half has a very different sexuality than mine as she just needs physical attraction then she is on fire. Whereas I need to properly date, spend time with and get personal with someone to tap into my sexual nature, otherwise most beautiful woman in the world has the same effect on me as beautiful countryside or a rainforest; I’ll appreciate the visual beauty but sexually I’ll feel nothing, unless I get to know that person. This often gets confused with asexuality, which is complete disinterest in sex. The difference is that once we build up and share an intimate connection, sexual energy is really powerful and intense, hence why mrs seldom does her hotwife thing, she much prefers our intimacy to external carnal pleasures, and when she does feel like going out for a hunt, it’s usually to experiment with the dynamic between us. I am mostly observant in these adventures of hers as I prefer the visual pleasure and the experience she gets from different kind of sex as every man is different. However, I do wonder if there are any others out there like myself, somewhere on demisexuality spectrum. - Posted from rhpmobile

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SSExplorer

6 years ago

On the spectrum here! I can find just the look of a woman intensely sexually arousing but when it comes to play, the level of my sexual excitement is definitely proportional to the level of connection I feel. I have felt connected to some at first meet on rare occasions and the men worked still linger but it usually takes me some time to get the most out of an interaction. Mrs S is interesting, throw her an attractive woman and she will enjoy herself completely but you could be the hottest guy and without a connection she wouldn’t be interested (unless you fulfil a few fantasy types she has).

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FeistyFatty

6 years ago

Yep, that's me. I've met with some really attractive hunky men over the years but if there's no connection, i literally switch off and don't want to proceed any further. There's no point proceeding in a sexual encounter if there's no connection or chemistry.

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RHP User

6 years ago

Hi, From a female perspective . how many men would be interested in talking to a woman who has a bent on who is a machinist or are guys only interested in a female for sexual what ever,s I quess not many would bother with myself and I know many are not any way, so I quess I get more from being able to turn things and work with a metal Lathe or wood turning and making thing,s . Out in the country side and taking photo,s spending time look about my self or see some wonderfull building.s going back many years the design shape and think who worked there , I quess nothing sexual about any of that, yet that to me will do far more and longer lasting , than ever jumping in to a bed for an hour with some one for me that is just bloody boring , and I,m not interested, I see beauty in so much more, plus being with some one who can enjoy those times with me I,m more intune then . and talking for some of us it,s not about sexual detail or ...just sex... Being a demisexual has a lot more going for us than just sex, and is a lot longer and last for a long time. what people need to know is there is far more to us just it,s about getting to know who we are and why we are different ,and can guys be bothered to take the time with us and not ...expect … just sex. I wonder . or do I already know that answer, ...noeleena...

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RHP User

6 years ago

We are the same and need a mental connection first. We like to have dinner and drinks with a couple or lady first.We go to clubs but really love getting to know a couple and love meeting up with them again?

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RHP User

6 years ago

100% in the spectrum.

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RHP User

6 years ago

No surprise there.

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RHP User

6 years ago

A demi sexual... Is that even a thing..? Honestly..do mlm people just keep making up new adjectives

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RHP User

6 years ago

Island life; There are lot of people out there that are asexuals, I had a friend who just didn’t feel anything sexual towards anyone, we’d just hold hands and hang around, because no one else was willing to be content with just that, she was not interested in sex at all, it’s just the way some people are. As for demisexuals; it’s not a made up thing. A simple google will tell you a lot about it. I am surprised in a place as diverse as RHP people still react to things like this. I never understood neither I could relate to boys in high school who got so carried away when they saw a beautiful girl, my lack of reaction was often confused for being gay. I coped lot of abuse and harassment for not going with the flow at the time. Being a big boy saved me from violence. But violence wasn’t the worst thing. “Gray asexuality or gray-sexuality (spelled "grey" outside the U.S.) is the spectrum between asexuality and sexuality.[1] Individuals who identify with gray asexuality are referred to as being gray-A, a grace or a gray ace, and make up what is referred to as the "ace umbrella".[2] Within this spectrum are terms such as demisexual, semisexual, asexual-ish and sexual-ish.[3] Those who identify as gray-A tend to lean towards the more asexual side of the aforementioned spectrum.[4] As such, the emergence of online communities, such as the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), have given gray aces locations to discuss their orientation.[1][4]

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RHP User

6 years ago

Demisexual. Pansexual. Sapiosexual. Asexual. Gray Asexual. Gray-A. Grace. Gray Ace. "Asexual-ish'' (had to laugh at that one, like being vegan-ish). "Sexual-ish'' (see previous, and incidentally why not just go further and have ''demisexual-ish'' on this spectrum). AVEN scales (apparently we should all know what this scale is being that we're on RHP, like we should all know the periodic table I suppose). So many ways to overthink things. Yes I believe in categories, or labels, as it helps us sort people into those that have similar interests - but there is a limit. So many topics on here talking about whether people like intimacy to go with their rumpy-pumpy that used far less words than you OP. It's like asking people if they like to eat fish then not being satisfied with them just saying yes, rather you want to know specifically which fish. Where do I sit on the AVEN scale? I'm sorry but there is some paint drying just over here.

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RHP User

6 years ago

OkeyDoke45 As It’s a personal thing for me I used bit more words than others out there, if it’s such a bother for you to read, then don’t. Simple. No one is forcing anyone to read anything. Also, i am asking if there are others out there that could relate to this, obviously you don’t, so again, you could as well not comment at all. I enjoyed reading other comments, so post is doing what it supposed to, regardless of you having an issue with its length.

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Mask_007

6 years ago

Yes, i can partially identified my self as that.

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RHP User

6 years ago

Ill use it the next time I get a message like then one I got this morning. "Where U live? Want a visitor?" Just to get it out there I wont do randoms or invite them to my home.

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RHP User

6 years ago

“Want a visitor?” There must be people out there who get a kick from inviting total strangers home, where else these people are getting these ideas otherwise? Surely, no one is stupid enough to think they will just get an invite to a strangers house?...Or maybe they are.. Now that’s worrying.

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RHP User

6 years ago

Oh they do....couple of weeks ago, another message. "Hi, Im in Perth and will be doing the rounds role playing as a tradie. If you want something seen to, let me know your address." Again, I didnt know the guy from Adam. I think RHP has a bad rep, join up and its a free for all. Which is not the case.

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