M57

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July 11 2012

Hi, We have played rarely, but have found a guy here and there for my wife to play with, It is interesting to me that the ones she has found sexually attractive are guys that I would not of picked her liking and the latest is the same. My wife is a gorgeous 42 yr old woman who is very sexual as well as being a very kind soul. I am a 43 yr old fit and very good looking male, but the guy that she finally found recently, who she has been doing by herself for the last two weeks is 22yrs old, thin built and definitely on the average scale of looks. I am puzzled as three weeks ago she asked me to find someone to join us and I joking said that based on previous experience I can not pick who she would like. Has anyone else had this experience where what you partner likes is completely different in the flesh to what she likes when asked and different to her husband.

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RHP User

13 years ago

What alot of swingers who are in secure relationships seek is someone different to their partner, a new experience. Not a replacement. There is probably something that you have in common with these men, whether it be blue/brown eyes or a nice smile. From personal experience I love my partners smile, I have a thing about nice smiles, but the men I have chosen are a bit chunkier/beefier than my partner ( this perplexed him for some time too) but I am not looking to replace him, just to have something different.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Part of the fantasy I guess. Do we fantasise about things that are readily available to us? Not so much.The 22yo might remind her of a guy (singer, actor, school crush) she used to desire.But then women are all to often a total mystery - so you may never work it out!!

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RHP User

13 years ago

nearly half her age,that in itself may be very attractive,once again quite disimilar to you.Perhaps he smells and or tastes like you, those two things tend to be constants......however some aspects to attraction are imponderable.I have been attracted to very different people,I don't really have a type and am sometimes completely surprised by who really floats me boat. x Hugs H

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RHP User

13 years ago

My husband is often completely dumbfounded with the men I choose to play with! He has never gotten it right ! .........sexual attraction for purpose of playing, not dating, often surprises me too ! ............I don't want too attractive , I prefer shier but dominant types. Looks don't matter as much as I thought they would , I am 41 so close to her age. I like guys that are REALLY into me , it makes me feel wanted and lusted after , I like knowing he is impressed with himself for scoring with me so to speak ;) ...........I don't want to be anyone's second option , just like I'd play it being single I guess :) .........hubby expects me to fuck big black men ( who visually turn me on) but I prefer a play mate to be a little less obvious! ..........he however is completely predictable , big boobs, tall , curvy, accent , gorgeous - nothing less !

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RHP User

13 years ago

DeliciousCplBris, At least you prepared to look at different options and find someone you want for a night to help you fulfill a fantasy-gives hope to all the single guys out there!! lol

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RHP User

13 years ago

Its the same with us, we don't go for a type, we go based on their ability to have some fun and be great company, but we have noticed that all our play friends are very different from each other...and we worked out because they look different and have great personalities that we find them attractive. All chocolate is nice chocolate!

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RHP User

13 years ago

I would have thought all the chicks would be after Alfred E Newman !!!! Go Figure

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RHP User

13 years ago

Amazing how every one is so different to the next person to a certain degree,Unlike most females on here i have never had a desire at all for another male.R...

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RHP User

13 years ago

It's true with us, she wants someone different - if she wants me she can have me any time. So when she is having fun she wants someone different. Someone who looks different and treats her differently to how I do.With me it's more the fun of meeting, flirting and seducing that I am looking for. That feeling when I'm looking into a girl's eyes, who I only met half an hour ago, and feeling her attraction for me is pretty awesome :) It's a totally different game to hers.

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13 years ago

I appreciate the input from you guys, It has been a wonderful experience, unexpected but we never started out looking for separate sex lives and this is a first and I have loved helping her experience it to the fullest, Don't think we will do the separate sex again, that is the one thing she hasn't liked about the experience but Whether he is better at somethings or not as good, it doesn't matter as it is about a sexy gorgeous woman feeling happy within our relationship to explore and if it is completely different then all the better.

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