Boundaries

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I am a pretty open minded person and will never be in a traditional relationship again. However I expect my partner to be honest with me. As soon as lies, half truths and misleading information become involved I lose trust and respect. Very hard to come back from that.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I’ve never much been a fan of the phrase “Boundaries” To e, a boundary is a fence or wall. I consider the words preferences, and experiences is more representative of what people really mean Read a few guys profiles and it seems so many like to consider they have wider “boundaries” than women, and they love to state how they will “push your boundaries”... How arrogant is that to assume that they hold more and wider (and wilder!) experiences than people they’ve never met! But experiences are only limited to those who have been presented with opportunity and occasion to grab them, or let them pass. So perhaps in my mind at least the better question is “what makes you say yes, or no” And I come back to the word *preferences* And preferences are usually a function of 1. past experiences, 2. knowledge, 3. opportunity and a willingness to add new experiences when 1,2&3 present themselves in any given combination of context So to summarise these ramblings.... there are no *boundaries* for most people. Only historically designated preferences. And in the context of right time/ right place/right person these will be flexible. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  boobsandbusted

  7 years ago

  situational mr b - Posted from rhpmobile

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  tcm70

  7 years ago

  I find my boundaries are situational and evolve as get to know the other person better. For instance, when first contacting someone I would happily describe myself and share face pics etc, but I’d set boundaries as to what personal information I’d share. As communication continues and I get a better feel for the person I’m chatting with, I’ll extend my boundaries to include more personal info about me. I think that’s a safety barrier tho, rather than a set boundary. I guess I do have some set boundaries. Anything that could be detrimental or harmful to myself I will not be persuaded into doing, or anything that goes against my moral compass. Yet there are other things in life which I may have boundaries set for, but only due to lack of knowledge or experience. As l learn more about them I can adjust my boundaries to better suit myself, or I’d delve carefully into it to see how far I could push my boundaries, I guess that’s known as stepping outside the comfort zone. If I get to a point where I feel uncomfortable, then that sets my new line in the sand.

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  DynamicCouple36

  7 years ago

  the term “boundaries” in the same sentence as “likes, dislikes and ground rules” . We feel (at least this applies to us) that clearly defined likes / dislikes / wants / needs / boundaries / ground rules etc need to be clearly discussed (and expanded on), explained and made very VERY clear prior to meeting anyone for a “swinging play session” . For example, for us safe sex is important as is fastidious personal (including oral) hygiene. We will not play with someone in the evening if they last showered that morning (for example ) We recently got turned off by a potential single male (who expressed interest in a MFM )who said he was s 30 min drive away . When we asked if he had showered & shaved, he said no need to as he had showered that morning - 15 hours prior. That resulted in our halting all further correspondence with him. We also ensure that we thoroughly discuss our dislikes (the things that turn us off during sex / the things that we do not want to happen during sex) : slapping, biting, spanking, spitting, choking / throttling , dirty disrespectful talk, rough sex and anything disrespectful towards women, no cross contamination between anus & vagina etc etc. We feel that by clearly defining our boundaries, rules , likes & dislikes , anyone that we may end up playing with will be less prone to “overstepping the mark “ which might result in the experience becoming an unpleasant one. Good communication is vital, in our opinion. What is also very important is the respect (and acceptance ) that we all have different likes, dislikes, desires and boundaries etc. If one is going to share ones body with someone else, they need to respect your boundaries / wishes , just like you need to respect theirs. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Dryphuz

  7 years ago

  When you go with boundaries you set limitations. As you said earthqueen you've had your boundaries moved before. I contend they were never boundaries just preferences to start with. We like some things and we dislike others and we may say we'll never do a certain thing, but then again we may find ourselves in a situation where we are willing to try, most often for someone who makes us feel safe in the trial. However it can be good to say they are boundaries early. Maybe later when you know better they can become preferences that you will bend or even let go when you feel safe enough. A clear starting point that's understood by all parties is often a solid way to make sure everyone is on the same page. Then no one is trying to push past your preferences into uncomfortable territory right off the bat.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Yeah nah. Point taken. tho DG on further thought.... Preference - I prefer you to fuck my pussy rather than my arse. There is NO clear yay or nay. Boundary - There is not a hope in hell you will fuck my arse. There is a very clear NO. Get my point 😁😁 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Like expecting honesty is a standard of behavior that we expect from others. Hygiene standards... standards about how we wish to be treated... standards in that I respect myself so I think carefully before sharing my body with someone...

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Is it a boundary or preference? It’s interesting reflecting on how far I’ve come in the last 4 years. Some things are locked in stone and I’m not budging from, while it’s been exciting and fun to move my boundaries/preferences on other things, with the love and support of my man. I would never have believed I would enjoy a Greedy Girl Party so much or that I would put myself out here as a hot wife. But with the right support and taking your time, it can be exhilarating (and scary) making these changes. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  EarthQueen

  7 years ago

  Quoting 'inspirit' Yeah nah. Point taken. tho DG on further thought.... Preference - I prefer you to fuck my pussy rather than my arse. There is NO clear yay or nay. Boundary - There is not a hope in hell you will fuck my arse. There is a very clear NO. Get my point 😁😁 - Posted from rhpmobilleYou're a funny lady

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  EarthQueen

  7 years ago

  You join RHP 1. That's a thing? I've never heard of it.2. Ugh I would never do that thing3. That person told a story about the thing and it doesn't sound that bad.4. That thing sounds interesting5. I met someone that also likes the thing6. They're good at the thing( or at least good at persuading you they are)7. I might try the thing8. Holy shit I love the thing/ or....Yeah , thats the reason I never tried the thing before. 'I will pick up the hook. you will see something new. two things. and I call them Thing One and Thing Two. these Things will not bite you. they want to have fun.' then, out of the box came Thing Two and Thing One! Agree with much of he preference /boundary conversation but I think through life boundaries will change as you evolve. Also if you go through a life changing experience it may alter your ideas dramatically.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thank you for asking You have to buy me dinner first I have feelings too..... I’m not just a giant sausage with feet you know 😎😄 - Posted from rhpmobile

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