Breaking The Drought

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Just like the blues I had an 8 year drought also! Not just from sex but all physical contact from a man.When I finally broke that drought 18 months ago it was extremely overwhelming and emotional!I was so mixed up....part of me actually felt dirty and ashamed for some reason as well as inexplicably violated....that's the only way I can explain it.Afterwards I got in my car all smiling, drove to a nearby park and sat there crying for over an hour.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  12 years ago

  Yep what JayJay said, except I sad in my car by the water and cried and cried. The sad part for me was.. A man (whom I trusted deeply) tried to convince me that I had something wrong with me and my emotions weren't normal. :( It took me a long time, very long tome to get past that. If only some men/people really understood and empathized what is like for a woman/person to be told for many years that they are worthless. And only to discover for themselves, what it is like to feel sexy and worth while all over again! Words can't explain. Ms.Foxy

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  MsSuperFoxy

  12 years ago

  it's was the way I was treated....with the respect and dignity I deserved. I have only had it the once where I shed a tear...I had to get up and leave the room and wash my face. It was not only embarrassing for me, it was also for the other person as well as I didn't want them to know how I was feeling nor show my emotions. The rush coming down was just too much for me to bear. I felt violently ill for a bout 2 days after.. I felt I had lost myself and was just too much to handle. Foxy

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  MsSuperFoxy

  12 years ago

  I am happy for you both! Foxy XX

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' If only some men/people really understood and empathized what is like for a woman/person to be told for many years that they are worthless. Ms.Foxy Ditto to that Foxy I never did tell that person that broke the drought for me how I cried....nah I sobbed!.... afterwards...

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  MsSuperFoxy

  12 years ago

  I think at the end of the day...when I look back..if I did tell them, would it have make a difference? Nah...... I'm so glad I didn't say a thing. I believe it would've made them feel guilty or sorry for me or seen me in a different light. I didn't want to do that. Some things are best left unsaid I reckon. Foxy PS- A good cry in a warm bath with candles burning does wonders too. ;)

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  MsSuperFoxy

  12 years ago

  I hope Jay Jay and myself have answered your question. Foxy Thanks Jay Jay, somehow I don't feel alone or like I'm the only one who felt this way ...xxx

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  MsSuperFoxy

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I think at the end of the day...when I look back..if I did tell them, it would NOT have made a difference? Foxy

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  In my experience it wasn't just because of a drought. When you unexpectedly connect with someone on such a deep level that it blows your mind it can be very overwhelming. Jelly I'm happy for you that you broke the drought, and invoking emotions that may have become slightly buried is never a bad thing if it helps to restore your relationship.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I have never cried from sex at any time but I am an emotional abyss most of the time.

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  Hottie1

  12 years ago

  There have been times when my wonderful man and I have not connected physically over periods of time, for whatever reason. It was however when I reacquainted myself with the 'old' me over 18 months ago that was my emotional catalyst. I said to hubby I want to buy a strap-on to use on you and I want to try a threesome and at no stage did he say no or make me feel that my needs and wants were wrong, he has supported the journey (with a smile on his face) wholeheartedly.His greatest compliments to me have been that he has the girl he married and thanked me for 'breathing new life into our relationship'. Yes I am lucky but not here bragging because all of your stories resonate with me, but sometimes we just need someone to show or tell us just how amazing we are!Foxy and Jay, what we see now are amazing, sexy and articulate women - you are on the other end stronger and passionate. Life's lessons are sometimes horrible but you inspire others with your stories and wisdomRalf, I so get you. I might invest in Kleenex myself. Thanks for sharing your stories.Mary xx

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Sorry to hear about the unhappy times people go through and YES we can see how being repressed would certainly open the emotional flood gates after being liberated. We are lucky not to have experienced this so now we know how some others may feel. Just can't understand why dumb men treat beautiful women badly. Hugs.....Jellies

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Re your comment on feeling dirty and ashamed ? I've been in a drought for over two years now ! I did however receive a blowie from a nice lady here about 3 months ago and the same as your good self I feel lost n somewhat dirty... But it's all works in progress I guess

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  where J-J and Foxy are coming from here... A few years back I had sex with a female I known for many years. It was one of them things where she was attached and so was I but the chemistry was always nice. After we both separated it seemed natural we connect somehow. Cut a long story short. In the after glow we were laying there and she started to cry then sob.. I thought it might have been something I done which she assured it was not, but as with all females, you ask whats wrong and she come back with a ' nothing' ? .. leaving me with a ' what the ' ? Anyway' later (much to my relief ) she explained how nice it was to have sex without the demands like her ex had put on her.. Unbeknown to me ' she hadnt had sex for 4 years ... We're still good friends ...

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