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Compatibility - not fucking for 'fuckings' sake
January 24 2023
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OpalRose
3 years ago
You first mistake is asking guys to read. 🤣
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Inflation
3 years ago
Extremely well written!!! This resonates with me, my observations and experiences. I can say this with a large degree of confidence also.
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Sawadee
3 years ago
Your bottom line is, quality over quantity.. Being the more romantic of the sex'es , l think this is what most women here desire and deserve . Nothing wrong with that ' but l feel this may not be the audience to appeal too.. l do take the time to read profiles , but here ' that proballly makes me abnormal...
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RHP User
3 years ago
Ive noticed a lot of the stories are now about degradation.......face slapping, cock choking etc. I think a lot of the guys watch too much porn and forget that dating, connection and anticipation is still a great thing and a lot of women still enjoy that lead up to sex. Even if you write it on your profile, it makes no difference. Thank goodness there are still some amazing guys on here.
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MsSuperFoxy
3 years ago
Sadly, everyone has their own agenda on here, on other APPs/social media platforms. We can't tell people how to behave, however we can set our own personal bounderies. We have a duty of care to just ourselves, not others. I'm not here to babysit dickheads or hear from others what they want to do to me. Absolutely NO! My body, by choice. I give the consent, not them. I don't give consent to vile, unruly distasteful 1st messages. BUT, I do give consent to my brain being fucked like a rodeo bull. I like that. 🥰 Happy days. 🌼 🌸 🌻 Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
3 years ago
I like your post, OP. Ms Foxy ✌️
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countrytouch82
3 years ago
I definitely understand as you have described it well. On one point there are also different definitions of high sex drive. For some it means frequency of sex sessions, and/or the number of orgasms they can mutually achieve in a session. For others it might be about how exploratory they are. As for who contacts you and who doesn't, there's a few factors. People that don't read profiles will obviously be contacting you regardless of what you have written. There's little you can do about that. Some will read your profile and see that they don't match your requirements, even on just one thing (for example some women have a strict height requirement etc). But they have done the right thing and read the profile, and not tried to push for "an exception". Others will meet the requirements, but don't want to be with someone in say the above example, that has a strict height requirement even if they ARE above that height, as they might rather be with someone for whom height is irrelevant or just a bonus. So then it's about finding the remaining few. Perhaps, they might not happen to find or see your profile, and so actively searching in reverse will help. An ideal someone might be currently seeing someone, which may not be the case in a year. So there's always a lot going on when trying to find an ideal match, and unfortunately it can take a great deal of time, regardless of what your particular preferences are. But I wish you luck in finding them, as you write and communicate well, so surely deserve it.
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Mrs_Deep_Love
3 years ago
An amazing post!
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MrandMrsEss
3 years ago
Here here, what you say resonates with me and it is always good to see others seek similar to what we seek. I have lost much of my faith that we will ever find it though as we just don’t seem to find these kind of energies in the circles we live in. Oh how many times I’ve heard the same “I want to pound your wife” like I’d get off on someone trying to hurt the person I love most. It’s not just single guys, we have had 2 meets with couples where the woman distracted me while the guy pushed the boundaries of consent. So it’s not just men that can be evil.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Very well said of course ! And you are definitely not on an island by any stretch of the imagination Luckily some people of all genders still understand and appreciate the relevance of connection and seduction 👌
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teamaj2
3 years ago
Wonderful post ! Ax
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Inflation
3 years ago
I do recall in kindergarten we had "show and tell" (Let's see how many of you remember that) The children would bring in their toys or whatever they wanted to showcase to the classroom. During reccess or lunch, all the kids wanted to play with the child who brought in the coolest toy. Despite being male, I occasionally read the Mrs profile. A large percentage of men can't really talk or charm a woman. In real life they get stage fright. Their confidence hinges on showcasing their cocks almost instantly, in the hope it recieves a positive response. Are we still 5yrs old?
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Ex007
3 years ago
💯 Eisa I wish we lived closer to each other. I'm sure we would enjoy an engaging conversation and perhaps become friends. I wish you well in your search. Ex007🐈⬛
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RHP User
3 years ago
Yes definitely an energy vibe, connection is key. Orgasming is one thing but I can still feel unfulfilled. Sometimes cuddling or touching is enough these days. Being able to share a silent moment, a gaze or a glance, to nurture and provide safety so each can grow and reveal is more powerful than a few minutes of physical stimulation. The most memorable encounters I have had all began with honesty and venerability, a sharing of the mind. The physical climax was intense and the afterglow lingers to this day. Good luck with your journey. ✌️
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Lostyanumber
3 years ago
I consider myself to be a lucky man as I have found a woman who is right for me. I have a friend with benefits,we turn each other on,not just please each other. OP there's a significant difference as you pointed out, in a great thread. My friend accepts my marriage and it's mismatched libidos,and I accept being Mr Right Now until Mr Right comes along. It's not quite "just fucking" but apart from the pillow talk and texting it's not much more. It's probably not ideal for a lot of people but it works for us. We both have fairly busy and fulfilling lives and we complement each other's lives in a great way. She doesn't expect to find Mr Right anytime soon but if she does I'll be grateful for what we had, disappointed but grateful too.
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nightingale8
3 years ago
I’ve found the percentage of vulgar and crass sex offers and openers on here to be relatively small, say <5 percent. I’ll be honest I haven’t often had the time to look through them all (sorry) but that’s just my observation. Many just want to get physical and nothing more but even amongst those who do, I find you can often reach that soft tender side also. It’s the relationship escalator they run away from
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RHP User
3 years ago
I resonate with this so much. I pretty much think any online dating isn't the right forum for me simply because I cannot look at someone and think 'I want to fuck you'. Just be proud of who you are, and I think of it as if I'm on this site as a rare character, then there is bound to be someone else at some point.
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madotara69
3 years ago
Sounds like you are waiting for a new friend who applies principals in part of introducing his wanting a new friend that wants and chooses his attributes over the entitlement ultimately centred too your pussy then the rest about you included be thankful and so lucky he picked your pussy win win Good luck with all that. It’s a little bit like damn….to little too late, seems yesterday we were young enough to certainly meet the friendship you invite introductions, along with Intensions for sharing the likes likewise and if when was appropriate would have found in you…not so much as for Mr Wonderful all our wishes xxx 😍😎♾️ lovebirds. In the meantime we would have acknowledged where your heart wants is reserved, all good except you’re horny and at the better times you are quite prepared to join a couple and high 5 wife take turns fucking a wonderful guy and that’s awesome but a dream time stole away, we would have wrote you to have some friends and fun times. Just wondering if scissoring is same same fmf as to crossing swords mfm ? Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
3 years ago
God this is a beautifully constructed post. .. And relevant to SO many. .. While my desires are ‘harder’ than yours, I 100% require the minimums that you mention here and on your profile. .. Connection and intimacy are undervalued when discussing sexual contact. Even for those of us who are into Kink, we recognise the absolute necessity for intimacy. .. And that can ONLY come with compatibility. It’s such a gorgeous and incredible thing to have that genuine connection. .. And it IS worth waiting for ❤️
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RHP User
3 years ago
Adore this thread and your sentiments expressed OP💓
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RHP User
3 years ago
Energy/frequency is very intoxicating it is the fuel which drives us to continue with seeking a connection when your convinced that you will be meet with the natural outcomes of when a fire burns out. This is what I love and dread about the impulse of attraction
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EddyWooly
3 years ago
I think most of us here have had sex with compatible and incompatible people. In my a connection always leads to better sex , even if socially you may be different. But no connection is just mechanics and while it's ok.. it's not as good. Undated a recovering alcoholic born again Christian for a year. And while we were casual and no chance of long term, we connected sexually and in some other philosophical ways. As such the sex was magnificent and kept us both interested longer than we both expected. We finished because we both met other people but it proved to me that a connection of some sort is a must for fulfilling sex.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Amazing post, it articulates so much of how I feel. As I get older I’ve lost any interest in sex for sex sake. If there’s no connection there’s nothing to stimulate my mind and I’m happy to just bide my time. Good luck to you
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Mask_007
3 years ago
Hi Eisa, very nice post! In my opinion is a very delicate subject. Man don't read same as some woman in here. Maybe majority of people are visual, they look for the "special fantastic looking being" that will sweep them out of their feet. And always looking for someone better looking. Having a much greater proportion of males here, increases the chances of some uneducated caracters give us that are really a extremely bad reputation. And that ruins for all of us that are trying. Some will probably really have a chance, to show how special they are. Because the look avarege or lesser avarege. I wish you all the best. And I honestly get your point. Good luck.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Ok I will add my 2 cents worth......when you read profiles the first thing you read is the headline.......that obviously has to be eye catching......but I wonder if some ladies think about the appropriate headline..... I guy is going to read a headline first then if he is smart will read the profile......but when you get a headline and then read the profile they don't match already that starts to get him thinking, at the end of the day we all want sex that's the main thing about this platform, some guys are not really interested in a connection, they just want great sex that's it.......some women profile are exactly like that,.........I can turn a woman on well if we strike up a awesome conversation, if there is a possibility of on going fun great, .......but I know why myself and my partner are on here for, so if your hoping for a relationship yes comparability and a connection is a total must, but if it's just for great sex have fun well no you don't want that attachment. This just The way I see it. Have a very awesome week all.
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Openlatetogether
3 years ago
This really resonated with me and I'm so glad that I'm not the only one. I was struggling to find the words of what I like with sex ad I get older but this is it. It's the energy and the seduction that gets me aroused and brings on the best kind of sex. If it's not there it's just mechanics and I would prob have more fun with myself lol. The build up and connection are 100% needed for me to consider being physical with someone and having sex for the sake of having sex just doesn't appeal to me anymore. Thankyou for putting this post up, people who want more than just a quick fuck are out there!
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loveYOURpleasure
3 years ago
I’ll join the chorus thanking you, and congratulating you, on your most thoughtful, considerate (to all perspectives), and beautifully constructed post. Not to mention the follow up comments of you and others. I’m not honestly sure that I can add any value ro the discussion beyond agreeing. As a minor point of interest, as someone with pleasure in my profile name, it has made me think about how that can be interpreted as solely a physical thing (as you allude to) whereas for me the ‘your pleasure’ is intended to be a more general reference to what ‘you’ enjoy. Certainly I think something that perhaps sometimes gets lost is that intimacy is (or can be) so much more than sex or other physical contact. For me it also embraces things such as the kindly little message - be that in response to something (like feeling poorly) or spontaneous, checking in with how each other is feeling, a thoughtful gesture, a knowing look, a smile, a shared laugh, a playful teasing comment. Of course, as you so rightly point out, that’s not for everyone. For me being on here has been, at least in part, the occasional joy of finding out what makes others tick and doing so over time. And if there is one thing that it does take, for many of us, it’s time… and sadly at times I think it can feel like water time as we wade through the unmatched. Thanks again for your post. It gives me some faith and hope!
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Onemustry
3 years ago
Wow I feel your words are exact match to myself
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RHP User
3 years ago
I love the true self messages that you send & I truly hope that more women read your words & understand that true meaning. Eisa123, I back what you have to say :)
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DonnaBrett
3 years ago
Yes, it would be nice if people actually read profiles before sending messages. We clearly say at the start of our profile to please read our full profile before messaging BUT it seems pretty obvious a lot of folks don't even read that first line otherwise they'd know we don't match on any number of things. It's just lazy.
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Vatican
3 years ago
Well said..
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RHP User
3 years ago
Yes & you deserve nothing less! It’s the connection, intention & authenticity for me too 💯
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RHP User
3 years ago
Thank you You spoke my Truths 🌿
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RHP User
3 years ago
Definitely quality over quantity
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RHP User
3 years ago
Profile not found why bother with all this ?
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RHP User
3 years ago
Hi Eisa, Thank you for raising a very interesting and complex issue. I believe that one of the challenges is the limitations of the words in the English language, in that it is really difficult to express our feelings of attraction in a way that is on the same page as another, on a site that proposes to 'matchmake' and join couples with the implicit intent of developing sexual interactions - so we are kinda set up to fail in the deeper communication/compatibility space. In the past, I developed a multi-criteria analyses tool in an excel spreadsheet, with many criteria and with each criterion having a weighting factor. My conclusion from this 'experiment' was that there is an 'X' factor that cannot be defined via the criteria presented in RHP or any other, often superficial criteria. Thanks again for this thought provoking conversation. Best, Don
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coolnhotnok
3 years ago
love your comment. When I say that I like pleasing & being pleased, what I actually mean is authenticity - you're actually pleased, not doing a show + same for me; if you're performing, that's bloody awful & - tbh - it makes me feel more like I'm having non-consentual sex than anything else which of course means stop & pillow talk &/or walking away. You've given me food for thought on that one, ty :)
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RHP User
3 years ago
Wow, so well written Eisa123 there has to be chemistry, there has to be a connection, maybe that's why I'm still single after two years, I am particular, but is that really a bad thing?
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RHP User
2 years ago
Thank you ☝️
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RHP User
2 years ago
This is the phase we are in over last few months. It's quality over quantity and unfortunately the former is diminishing.
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