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Couldn't cum
September 04 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sometimes you're body just isn't relaxed enough with that person yet. I don't know if that was the case, you can feel very comfortable and relaxed but when it comes down to it you aren't quite there yet. Another date may fix it. I wouldn't worry if you both had a great time. I oddly enough find it easy to cum when i'm in a group but one on one is MUCH more personal and i have to really plug in to the other person and the situation or I just can't relax enough. Fortunatly i found that getting to know the person before hand when ever i used to have a single date really helped. One of my very first dates, i was soooo nervous, i thought "there is no way i'm going to get there." Fortunatly the guy was so skilled i actually didn't have a choice. I'm sure another date will help xx Kitty
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RHP User
14 years ago
So..... I guess your not anticipating that he will ask you out again then?Surely, whether you cum or not isn't an important consideration... least of all for us blokes. :pHugsStalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'stalky'So..... I guess your not anticipating that he will ask you out again then?Surely, whether you cum or not isn't an important consideration... least of all for us blokes. :pHugsStalky Thanks Stalky, Of course its not important for you, as long as you've shot your lot your a happy camper. That I understand. Its just that this usually doesnt happen to me. He probably doesnt care either, he had a good time. I just thought I might get a bit more information about this phenomena. I want to know if other girls have the same problems. I know you guys do all the time and its no big deal.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Your just not into this guy! I suggest you try another more passionate and more experienced guy! And that should do the trick!Rex
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RHP User
14 years ago
The problem could be simple...what is it with all these sensational and more mature women with eclectic tastes thinking they are going to have fun with younger men, you know the kind? Push in, pull out and repeat only if necessary? Fast food and videos games have really messed up the Gen Y guys you know. | Next time check his shoes...that's a dead giveaway. Never go out with a guy wearing slip ons or worse...velcro tabs to close his shoes. If a man can't tie knots in his shoelaces, there's a damn good chance he's not too creative or patient. Us old guys with laces in our shoes know a few tricks and don't keep them up our sleeve. Half the fun of leaning down to tie your shoelaces is looking up your dress to see if you are wearing anything underneath. | So maybe that's it....leave the young guys alone.
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RHP User
14 years ago
CM he was the same age as we are, there was no cougar going last night it was just one of those things. I'm sure if it was you that wouldnt have happened because you are just so good, at hm everything. swoon, can women still swoon, if not we should be allowed too.
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RHP User
14 years ago
It can be caused by a variety of things. Some of which have already been mentioned. First time nerves. Head space not quite right. Yours, not his. Outside factors and things going on in your life that have nothing to do with the date. Sex does not always have to culminate in the BIG OH in order for it to be great. If he had fun and you had fun then there really is no problem. Sometimes seeing the man in question again can help. Then he gets to know your body more intimately, knows what buttons to press, when to go harder and when to stop and all things sexual can become better with time and practise.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Just because you didnt cum does'nt mean the sex was bad. Sometimes the ole libido decides today is not the day and thats that. I had times when I damn near killed myself trying to cum and it just dont happen ' but the session itself was fantastic.Do you take the inititive to stimulate yourself at the same time ? . I know for some women they rely solely on penetration alone to get them across the line whereas others give themself a helping hand ..so to speak.. ? Mr JJ
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RHP User
14 years ago
That happens 2 me alot.. I hv a great time n it feels awesome, but even if im relaxed n comfortable I hardly ever cum either from oral or intercourse:( mayb there's something wrong with me.. Any thoughts people?? I thought mayb if I lived out some of my dirtiest darkest secret fantasies I mite get there, (thts y I joined rhp) Tho I hvnt met any 1 yet who really likes 'to take control' N so remain unsatisfied. Please help!! Isn't it funny how u can admit things like tht on a site 2 strangers but not 2 ppl close to u, instead faking it.. Hmm
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RHP User
14 years ago
...just smart enough to know when to sit back, watch and ask for a guided tour on how to get you there. Some men actually know when to ask for directions. | Quoting 'fnqlady' I'm sure if it was you that wouldnt have happened because you are just so good, at hm everything. swoon, can women still swoon, if not we should be allowed too. | The camera is optional...although I do some of my best work behind the lens. Knowing where you're going beats getting lost along the way. The pictures... | ...are just for the GPS.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Narregirl22'That happens 2 me alot.. I hv a great time n it feels awesome, but even if im relaxed n comfortable I hardly ever cum either from oral or intercourse:( mayb there's something wrong with me.. Any thoughts people?? I thought mayb if I lived out some of my dirtiest darkest secret fantasies I mite get there, (thts y I joined rhp) Tho I hvnt met any 1 yet who really likes 'to take control' N so remain unsatisfied. Please help!! Isn't it funny how u can admit things like tht on a site 2 strangers but not 2 ppl close to u, instead faking it.. Hmm Have a google of Female Orgasmic Disorder, there are a number of things that can cause it. And a common indicator is that constantly getting to the edge and not going over, get to the edge...nuthin Nerve damage from surgery, and childhood trauma of a few kinds, there are a few things can can prevent the necessary engorgement needed for the woman to climax
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...just smart enough to know when to sit back, watch and ask for a guided tour on how to get you there. Some men actually know when to ask for directions. | Quoting 'fnqlady'I'm sure if it was you that wouldnt have happened because you are just so good, at hm everything. swoon, can women still swoon, if not we should be allowed too. | The camera is optional...although I do some of my best work behind the lens. Knowing where you're going beats getting lost along the way. The pictures... | ...are just for the GPS. When are you coming up north? Us ladies up here would love to meet you., perhaps we could have a party
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey, Just thought I would mention, this can also happen to a guy, had a date the other week with a hot, sexy lady, got hard and stayed hard for hours, to my suprise : ) and actually had to really forcus to get there when she started to worry I wasn't into it....go figure..I'm not worried, had a fantastic time, and she certainaly made the most of the time...lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
...for the GPS, you know just to make sure I don't crash into any mountains or nose dive into any valleys unexpectedly on the way? | Quoting 'fnqlady' When are you coming up north? Us ladies up here would love to meet you., perhaps we could have a party. Sure, I have always liked parties...do I get a hat and a noisemaker, or should I bring my own. Oh too, just one question... | ...how many of there are you? | | Don't worry about the rest....I buy in bulk. The wooden spools make great outdoor furniture.
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RHP User
14 years ago
and sometimes it's frustrating.and it doesn't make a lick of difference if he's doing everything right, and i'm horny as hell - it just isn't gonna happen.but if i shift my focus away from trying to cum and back to just enjoying how everything feels it can be pretty amazing anyway.
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N4November
14 years ago
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RHP User
14 years ago
...they are still only in the early marketing and release date schedules, Baygirl. | Quoting 'baygirl2315' Gen Y might be exactly what is required... Keep the faith...Lelo has promised to release this new "Gen Y" model before Christmas. It's supposed to be fully guaranteed and comes with your lifetime warranty. | All up, it's supposed to be a killer.
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N4November
14 years ago
you're no fun at all.... giving it away and letting me know what you're buying me for Christmas!!! Lots of mistle-toe kisses for you!!! ;) . MWAH!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
...why wait 'til Christmas. Jingle my bells...ho ho ho.
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tamworthguy46
14 years ago
Lol ...that song was the firs thing that popped into my head ! Hi fnqlady....I remember hearing some stats at one time on the amount of women that dont actually climax during a sex session, I'm not shure on the exact figures, but i know it was quite high. 40% or so.........you said you quite enjoyed it.......but you are concerned enough to post a forum..........so i can only assume you ussually orgasim ? There are several factors, such as Anti depresants,or phsical fitness, can inhibit your ability to orgasim, and even what your used to .....to get you off.......like if you usually use a vibe,or masterbate, it can be difficult to achieve orgasim by normal penitration,This works the same in guys to !!!!!! thats apart from the fact that there has to be some sort of clitoral stimulation for a woman to achieve orgasim anyway ! So do you think you could have got yourself off......if so how ?.....if you don't mind me asking..... I.m probably the same as a lot of guys, I feel like a bit of a failure if i can't get my partner off...I have even asked them what does it for them.......or even a girl says.....try the other side of my clit or something ..but sometimes it's not from lack of trying.....it just doesn't happen......!...... Maybe......Next please !!....lol....who knows ! love and peace Tam
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RogueGeek
14 years ago
I'd have nobody to sleep with at all.For me, cumming is the exception not the rule. Truth be told, I'd love to be in your position.Cheers,MS(the female half)
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RHP User
14 years ago
It takes me ages, with lots of stimulation and not always successful and I'm not in a minority. Not everyone orgasms every time. I have come to view straight sex as simply a pleasurable physical pastime and not a wonderful means to an orgasm.Enjoy what you have.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes it happens , has happened to me with two different guys. Both really nice guys , one the sex was good but i just couldnt get there , the other , the sex was blah so naturally nothing happened on my end. But , then the next guy.. OMFG.. went in with no expectations and he totally blew my mind ( pardon the pun ).. I dont think its abnormal for a woman not to cum during sex. You can still enjoy sex without cumming.,
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'nickii_7' Yes it happens , has happened to me with two different guys. Both really nice guys , one the sex was good but i just couldnt get there , the other , the sex was blah so naturally nothing happened on my end. But , then the next guy.. OMFG.. went in with no expectations and he totally blew my mind ( pardon the pun ).. I dont think its abnormal for a woman not to cum during sex. You can still enjoy sex without cumming., mm well you know what they say ... never know till you try - hehe
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RHP User
14 years ago
Its nice to know that Im not alone and that it happens to other girls, I know it happens to guys and I understand that. Its just that this was the first it had happened to me. Now I know Im normal, thanks guys & dolls.
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RHP User
14 years ago
sometimes i cant even cum from wanking.....my body just refuses to cooperate...and i just end up sore and frustrated! Bloody thing!!Oh well...just gotta keep trying!JMO...BJxxx
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