Couples and seperate rooms?

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  well the only comment i can say for this is different strokes for different folks.....but yes does sound a little weird at the same time....i thought the whole idea of 'swinging' or 'swapping' was everyone enjoying the fun..

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  We've encountered these types before.....We've always played same room and love the dynamic of being able to see and enjoy what the other is doing at the same time. Its rather rude of another couple to try to impose their own rules and standards (likely caused by their own insecurities).   If they don't want to play in a way that suits everyone involved then theres no need to "Let them know when your ready"

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  We've met people like this before.....if they aren't interested in playing to a tune that suits everyone involved then there is definately no need to "let them know when your ready".   We find playing in the same room so much more fun....being able to watch and enjoy what your partner is doing at the same time takes everything to a different level

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  We haven't had that issue, but nothing turns us on more than seeing each other sorting another person out. :) Wouldn't want to miss that for the world! Kinda like watchin a porno except the star is the hottest person you know! :)

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  nothing better than watching your partner having fun and all together in the same room............just dont get the seperate room idea, thats not fun

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  we have done both and it really depends on the mood. Sometimes a group session can feel a bit like a rodeo which dont get me wrong can be a great experience. on the other side of the fence a swap is a whole different kettle of fish... way more intimate.you really do get to know the person you are with in ways you just wouldnt in a group session. for my wife she also gets the added kick of "having an affair" without actually having one. we have also found that it takes a lot more trust to swap than it does to do the group thing which can be daunting.   I say try it before looking down your nose... they really are two COMPLETLEY different experiences.

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  2more4fun

  16 years ago

  I think alarm bells would ring for me if a couple said they MUST have separate room play (ie - Can't stand watching my partner with another person but I like shagging other people) but if it's just a preference then we'll go with it. If anything I think there are more couples who MUST have same room sex. Each to their own :)

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I can see both sides as we play in what ever way and are happy to play same room and different rooms different houses There are pros and cons to both. Play in different rooms can be more intense because it is just you and one other person, sometimes it is easier too few body parts to pleasure and fit onto a bed. But same room means there is lots happening lots of body parts to pleasure and often it is more fun with laughing and talking.But I always get worried with couples who have lots of rules

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hmm, well to be honest I did, lots of rules I realise now is a sign of insecurity and I understand why people are weary of them.That being said, it is important that a couple understand each others limitations and I do not think you have to spout out the list to everyone pre playtime....eg: If your partner only likes same room do not take someone you are playing with off to another room, simple, rule respected without freaking out other parties... Anyway, where I am supposed t be going with this...I was never comfy with separate rooms but I knew Andy wanted to try it, we discussed t and I was uncertain but one night we were having such fun it just happened. This does not mean I will do it all the time but I am no longer closed to the idea, for me it just has to be the right mood and the right people, but I will never know this until I am in the moment, hence rules get messy.I like your point that maybe they are not ready to watch each other, some people have come out and said this in the past, I have heard of men that can not get hard with other men in the room, there are all kinds of reasons, but at the end of the day everyone has to respect each other and their boundaries, I would find it somewhat condescending if some one said, contact me when you are ready.xx Salina

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I am a bit confused ... I have run accross couple profiles where they have ticked  "swap partners for sex"  and "group sex" but then they say that they will not do seperate rooms? isnt that what swap partners means? to me group sex is all in everyone having sex with everyone...where as swap means just that... swap partners. so that is the question... does swap partners mean .. swap partners or not?

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