M38 F38
Do you notice?
August 16 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
If he tried to talk to me when he is eating......me how rude.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am having sex with someone I always keep a notebook handy for this very reason.It takes a long time to jot everything down sometimes but taking photos of all the wrinkles,saggy skin,scars etc helps.x Hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ha ha Red, do you have a degree in dentist? Does it matter if they talk, I can't understand what they are saying anyway!?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't even see them as "flaws". We're all just people. I can have sex with an airbrushed picture in a magazine if I really want but they're not very soft and they give terrible head, so I prefer humans in the flesh every time. If something did capture my attention I'd just acknowledge it mentally and get back to the fun. "Oh, that nipple is an innie and not an outie. That was unexpected but I don't care!" Just like I hope my sexual partners don't linger over my ritual scarification or my Savage Garden Forever tattoo.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You know, this is one of the saddest things about dating. The difference in attitudes between men and women.Woman's thought bubble "What about my saggy/small/large boobs, Caesarean scar, pot/saggy belly big/small nipples, shaved/unshaved pussy, varicose veins, wrinkles, stretch marks etc etc".Man's thought bubble "Ohhhhhh freakin' WOW - let me at her".If any woman has had the experience of the two of you having the clothes fall off and the man runs screaming from the room, I'd like to hear about it. See the disrobing scene in one of my very favourite movies, "It's Complicated". It nearly made me weep, because I felt just like Meryl Streep's character was portrayed and I've seen far too many women like that also - absolutely terrified of taking my clothes off the first time. You know what, I went "Oh freakin' WOW" and so did she.The fashion industry legalising walking skeletons has a lot to answer for.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Obviously there has to be an initial attraction, but personality and a connection is so much more important. None of us have perfect bodies, would be boring if we did.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'slippery_halo' I don't even see them as "flaws". We're all just people. I can have sex with an airbrushed picture in a magazine if I really want but they're not very soft and they give terrible head, so I prefer humans in the flesh every time. If something did capture my attention I'd just acknowledge it mentally and get back to the fun. "Oh, that nipple is an innie and not an outie. That was unexpected but I don't care!" Just like I hope my sexual partners don't linger over my ritual scarification or my Savage Garden Forever tattoo. Savage Garden Tattoo ? Kick the stool my dream is shattered
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'seeking134'You know, this is one of the saddest things about dating. The difference in attitudes between men and women. Woman's thought bubble "What about my saggy/small/large boobs, Caesarean scar, pot/saggy belly big/small nipples, shaved/unshaved pussy, varicose veins, wrinkles, stretch marks etc etc". Man's thought bubble "Ohhhhhh freakin' WOW - let me at her". If any woman has had the experience of the two of you having the clothes fall off and the man runs screaming from the room, I'd like to hear about it. See the disrobing scene in one of my very favourite movies, "It's Complicated". It nearly made me weep, because I felt just like Meryl Streep's character was portrayed and I've seen far too many women like that also - absolutely terrified of taking my clothes off the first time. You know what, I went "Oh freakin' WOW" and so did she. The fashion industry legalising walking skeletons has a lot to answer for. I mean no shit, he ask me to bed he started to undress me , he had me on my back and unbuttoned my top and pulled back my shirt and said, ohh wow and kissed my boobs and then He shook his head and said Shit I cant do this and ran out the door...I thought what the fuck and kept my clothes on and never had sex for three years as was just to embarrassed after that one.
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RHP User
13 years ago
And I'm cool with that..But when they bring out a red texta and start putting rings around them. That's going a bit far!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just like I hope my sexual partners don't linger over my ritual scarification or my Savage Garden Forever tattoo. Haha, love it, slippery halo :) I love my tats - if someone's going to have a nasty reaction to mine then there's a good chance I'm not going to enjoy their company as much...On a more serious note, I see my tats as my battle scars - they're markings which reflect my mood, thoughts and feelings at the time they were etched in to me, bdsm247 :) Imperfections on a body can be earned by overcoming adversity or hardship. To me, in the context of intercourse, they can reflect a sexy strength, or psychological hardiness that that person has experienced and boldly overcome, or had the courage to walk away from- scarred, but in tact. I met a girl in my travels to NY who said that people who lived in New York developed a warrior scar across their face after having lived in NY for a given amount of time. Not a physical marking necessarily, but an emotional hardiness which their circumstance has induced, and can be felt in the presence of others. When this girl, Brenda, said that to me, I was in awe of New Yorkers :) I *think* that it relates to what you're saying. I think...I guess no one can make another person feel better about their body, but hopefully it helps that there are people out there who see these perceived flaws as something to celebrate rather than hold in poor esteem. I personally think you look gorgeous, bdsm247 - and having spoken to you on chat, i happen to know you've got a very sexy personality, too ;)Lucky hubby!
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RHP User
13 years ago
TR, I've already met you and all I can say is that your paramour of that time must have heard the guide dog he had parked outside being kidnapped. For goodness sake, TR, you're gorgeous! There needs to be an Australian Citizenship Card recycling centre, where unworthy Alpha male Aussies can drop their cards in for Beta (= better) males to use.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I tend not to really notice until it's pointed out to me through their self-conscious behaviour. We're all built in different ways, after all. If they're self-conscious about it I usually just distract them or joke it off... I cant really talk, being a person with a blue birthmark on my ass :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
all in the mind.... when someone feels beautiful , is beautiful..., the way you see yourself , I feel more open confident sexy than when I was 15 or twenty...After breast cancer ...and a few scars... illness made me stronger in my mind, my body broken saved my soul....I am beautiful and confident and I enjoy sex like never before....and by the way a nice body attached to an ass.... e! no thanks!! love the real skin, the real people the real man with happy lines , bit of belly is ok .. gentle , caring, fun ...the best sex ever had was with a friend who is 64...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Talking whilst dinning at the Y, that is quite a feat.Bobtail_3, nailed it.....mumblesu ckmumble I would imagine there are a lot of disappointment stories to be told from this site. I’ve got one myself. I think it’s because we first make contact on a web site. Nobody really knows who they are dealing with until the first meet. If you meet someone at a social gathering, or at work etc. you can see how that person behaves and make your decisions on the spot. There’s no obligation. So if you weren’t happy with that person, you wouldn’t take it any further. Dating from a web site is a bit different. I’m speaking from a bloke’s point of view here. (My point of view, not all blokes) I’ve gone to all the trouble of getting neatly dressed, bought the flowers and the chockies , and booked a table in a nice restaurant , and in walks one of the Fudd sisters. They immediately turn into a Charlie Sheen slump buster. Or they look lovely, but as soon as they open their mouths, nine out the ten voices in my head are screaming “RUN” So if I can get away with it, I will go the “dinky pop” and disappear into the night. If no dinky pop, just simply disappear.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Back to the topic, I generally notice the flaws in people fairly quickly, and that determines whether I do the deed or not.(If it was ever on the cards in the first place)There are exceptions (Read above).Trax
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RHP User
13 years ago
Flowers, chockies..... geeze I consider myself lucky if I get taken to a restaurant.... Turning up is a bonus in my book...... disappearing down the "dinky pop" is what comes next I guess!!! I had a guy leave once 'cos I served smoked salmon crepes........ I didn't even get MY clothes off.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Smoked salmon crepes !! what was his problem?? I would crawl 10 Klm over broken bottles for that.... Well maybe 5 Klm... 2...1.25...I would do extraordinary things for you. Like nude cartwheels. The man dosn't deserve a dinky pop. A dinky pop is like a reverse knee trembler by the way, as opposed to a hop on.Yep I've got all the moves baby.Trax
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RHP User
13 years ago
OMG - what's wrong with the men of Australia? You can cook for me anytime, young Bobtail, and I will be running to the table with bated knife and fork. A legacy of being a dad with 3 kids at home....SIGH!Quoting 'bobtail_3' Flowers, chockies..... geeze I consider myself lucky if I get taken to a restaurant.... Turning up is a bonus in my book...... disappearing down the "dinky pop" is what comes next I guess!!! I had a guy leave once 'cos I served smoked salmon crepes........ I didn't even get MY clothes off.
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RHP User
13 years ago
you probably intimidated him with your classy menu....next time serve frozen pizza or dim sims...that should do it. Now what happened to that bogan thread.x Hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Hesione' you probably intimidated him with your classy menu....next time serve frozen pizza or dim sims...that should do it. Now what happened to that bogan thread.x Hugs H I'm over here in Perth and I miss the Victoria Markets dim sims !Must admit though smoked salmon crepes oh yes please, still Bobtail_3 him running probably saved you from a much nastier experience I would reckon ! xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Don't think there's going to be a "next time" as far as Bobtail is concerned.Not for the crepe runner anyway.Would you give him a second chance Bobtail ?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nothing is perfect, what may seem like flaws in some may seem like a unique signature in others, life would surely be boring if we were all the same. I like a person with substance and character with soul and spirit and all the knots and life's scars that go with it
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RHP User
13 years ago
flaw1 /flɔ/ Show Spelled<flaw> Show IPA noun 1. a feature that mars the perfection of something; defect; fault: beauty without flaw; the flaws in our plan. If you're noticing flaws, you're seeking perfection. If you're seeking perfection, you're looking at the wrong species. What you call "flaws", I call "individuality".
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting 'seeking134'You know, this is one of the saddest things about dating. The difference in attitudes between men and women. Woman's thought bubble "What about my saggy/small/large boobs, Caesarean scar, pot/saggy belly big/small nipples, shaved/unshaved pussy, varicose veins, wrinkles, stretch marks etc etc". Man's thought bubble "Ohhhhhh freakin' WOW - let me at her". If any woman has had the experience of the two of you having the clothes fall off and the man runs screaming from the room, I'd like to hear about it. See the disrobing scene in one of my very favourite movies, "It's Complicated". It nearly made me weep, because I felt just like Meryl Streep's character was portrayed and I've seen far too many women like that also - absolutely terrified of taking my clothes off the first time. You know what, I went "Oh freakin' WOW" and so did she. The fashion industry legalising walking skeletons has a lot to answer for. I mean no shit, he ask me to bed he started to undress me , he had me on my back and unbuttoned my top and pulled back my shirt and said, ohh wow and kissed my boobs and then He shook his head and said Shit I cant do this and ran out the door...I thought what the fuck and kept my clothes on and never had sex for three years as was just to embarrassed after that one. Tuscan I'd confidently bet a large sum of money that it had nothing to do with you. I think he was cheating and got an attack of the guilts. Or was a closet gay? :P Haha, more likely a cheater. A female FWB and I found a bi male gentleman on here to play with, brought him to the hotel room. He did something similar before even seeing her undressed. He was no Adonis himself so it can't be that he realistically expected to have sex only with supermodels and was disappointed we weren't. If he was really that unattracted to either of us he wouldn't have come back. So it was all in his head. Guilt, blind terror, something. But I know it can't possibly be because I'm ugly, because I'm the best thing since sliced bread.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ha ha ha trax49 I heard from the runner last week, seems that what he wanted was to be tied up outside and whipped for being naughty............I am such a failure as a Dom ....... ho hum! Tonight I sit alone with my laptop, the next toy's share of Coq au Vin looking like tomorrow nights tea.... MEN!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Seeking 134, you are so right. Its only as I have got older, I've realised that "oh wow" is what men are truly thinking when they see my slip out of my lingerie, and not all the other garbage that used to fill my head (circa 20's) and hold me back from truly experiencing the pleasures of sex. Slippery H and little lion , I love tattoos! I like to trace my nails over the outlines of them when relaxing in post orgasmic bliss:P If I've actually got to the point of wanting to sleep with someone, I'm not going to be noticing any perceived "flaws". Minxy x
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'bobtail_3' Flowers, chockies..... geeze I consider myself lucky if I get taken to a restaurant.... Turning up is a bonus in my book...... disappearing down the "dinky pop" is what comes next I guess!!! I had a guy leave once 'cos I served smoked salmon crepes........ I didn't even get MY clothes off.Maybe he thought you were trying to do him in with "the salmon mousse"....
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RHP User
13 years ago
bobtail_3 It's not you. He must have an severe allergy to salmon that is life-threatening.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Next time dont cook the salmon, just slap them with the whole fish.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Coq au vin you say, I love chook In plonk.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'msminx3'Seeking 134, you are so right. Its only as I have got older, I've realised that "oh wow" is what men are truly thinking when they see my slip out of my lingerie, and not all the other garbage that used to fill my head (circa 20's) and hold me back from truly experiencing the pleasures of sex. Slippery H and little lion , I love tattoos! I like to trace my nails over the outlines of them when relaxing in post orgasmic bliss:P If I've actually got to the point of wanting to sleep with someone, I'm not going to be noticing any perceived "flaws". Minxy x Hehe I was joking about that particular tattoo. Though I did recently get one which is a little less shameful than that'd be. I admit that I'm a weird enough character that most of what I joke about could potentially be true anyway! Good on you for the revelation msminx3. I'm so glad you've realised what actually goes through men's heads is often a lot nicer and more grateful than what some women think! I'm just sorry for you that in your 20s you had that little critical voice chirping up for those years. Oh well, better make up for lost time now! Enjoy!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Lol that's a shame S-halo! Ah the 90's ...loved that music! ...and yes maybe it's something to do with the looming "40" thing , but I am absolutely making up for lost time and setting a new course of "pleasure pig" from now on. Lol oh and that's giving too. Whilst I Have to have a physical attraction, have found that sexy comes in surprising packages sometimes ( really resisted writing boxes then !) Oink Minxy x
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Nope because we are not perfect in anyway shape or form. If we connect with someone so what if they have flaws, it wouldn't be fun if everyone was perfect.... Good conversation, make me love and great great sex!!! Flaws or no flaws xxxx
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