How do you deal with strangers?

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Motive is ok..Ulterior Motive not so good.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Forum posters know each other in real life,many are close friends,perhaps this is why .....In te past OP you have indicated that you don't have much time for the regular forum posters.So this is why you are puzzled by some of the interactions here,afteral sometimes a stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet.And yes I am often curious about the motivation that OPs have....indeed what is yours?xQ

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I find that a persons opinions about an issue says more about them than the other person and actual issue. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Well Rupa, If a stranger came up to me and said "what do you think of cheating" or "why don't women reply to my messages" you are going to have to ask more questions aren't you. If a stranger on the forum asks a specific question about a large or varied topic you often need some clarification in order to answer. I would say it's normal. Particularly as you often "get" more of the story as the thread develops and you can see that this information can change how a person answers the question. Overall I try and take people at face value because at the end of the day they are just a picture on a screen. I don't care About their situation or if thy have used fake pictures etc.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I do care about motivation and things like phony stories and pics. If I'm going to spend time typing a reply I don't want to waste it on responding to liars, fakes and trolls :-P

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  When I meet new people I'm optimistically cautious.. I always look for the good first but if they come across as protected my guard goes up. I know lots and lots of people through my previous lifestyle but only a few would I call real friends. I have 3 female and 2 couples I keep in touch with here ' ..and a group of regular friends I've known for years.. Beware the person who looks for the bad things first' life experience tells you they make terrible friends.. Give me a smiling face and a passion for laughing and you will win me in no time... If I have to work too hard to make a friend , the're probally not for me as I have a low tolerance for stupid uncaring people..

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I like helping people, including strangers with advice. But only on topics that I feel like I can contribute on, so I will not give my opinion in a lot of places (and often I prefer contacting them directly rather than sprouting it all out in a forum - which I know often goes against the idea of a forum).

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Interesting question/post. In regards to strangers I find most have a motive but there are many forms of respect within that motive? Most I'm more then happy to indulge but some I simply can't warm to as people ? My own motive is simple one :) respect those the way I'd like to be respected

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I'm actually quite shy. Except on here....online; I can be anything I want you to see. The written form also is quite different; as when you read, you'll generally read it in your own voice with your own level of confidence. I'm aware this doesn't paint me in a very good light. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  rupamohan

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'Qefenta3' Forum posters know each other in real life,many are close friends,perhaps this is why .....In te past OP you have indicated that you don't have much time for the regular forum posters.So this is why you are puzzled by some of the interactions here,afteral sometimes a stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet.And yes I am often curious about the motivation that OPs have....indeed what is yours?xQ I get time for this forum near school holidays or year end..focus in this short time is to know myself more in relation to surrounding environment. That in turns means knowing first the environment more...and forum forms a small part of the environment. However I find hard to read minds and form opinions about strangers. I have to first create a situation for others to cover why they say something, with in what they say. In this regard the focus is always taking people on face value but moving the dialogue to cover the motive with in it. Short circuiting this process and trying to read other's mind directly by assuming every one has same reason for same question is considered very rude by me. Most useful information to me is getting diverse view but with in the OP's agenda and knowing the reason for diverse view. My interaction with strangers is often limited to not forming any opinion at all and simply understand how others think.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  class meander what does calling people trolls say about you - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'goodnevil' class meander what does calling people trolls say about you - Posted from rhpmobile You do realise it's not a swear word? From Urbandictionary: An Internet troll, or simply troll in Internet slang, is someone who posts controversial, inflammatory, irrelevant or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum or chat room, with the primary intent of provoking other users into an emotional response or to generally disrupt normal on-topic discussion.

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  rupamohan

  11 years ago

  They generally have single's profile at forums, specific gender,post a lot and aged between 40 and 45. Couples are too busy being a troll outside the cyber world...hahaha.

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