Men, what’s the point of being disrespectful toward women?

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  nightingale8

  2 months ago

  When shit hits the fan people hit out at those they subconsciously think are below them, or those they think don’t or won’t fight back. I remember when covid happened and random nurses (usually female) got attacked on the street. Like WTF. Same can happen alone in bedrooms where people think they’re untouchable and respond with filth to gain back a sense of importance or control. I do admire those who choose to walk away or move on. They’re the real men. I just don’t want to sleep with all of them!

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  nutsundae

  2 months ago

  I don't think there is usually any carefully considered strategy, I think it's partly as simple as there sadly being a reasonable percentage of guys across all society who are douchebags. What amplifies it on sites like this and in the lifestyle in general, is the misconception that women who embrace their sexuality (god forbid) are therefore desperate to fuck anything and everything that moves and essentially their services are owed to all men - even those without a Diamond subscription. That sense of entitlement feeds and fosters douchebaggy attitudes and behaviours. It can blind otherwise decent people and lead then down dark roads. Totally agree, OP, with respect and the right attitude being key. Yes, rejection sucks. Yes, it's frustrating to feel you are a very small fish in a big pond. To feel invisible in dark. The way out isn't to cast more darkness. It's to shine your light brighter.

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  RHP User

  2 months ago

  1. Why the public service announcement from the BBC in the 1960’s?? 2. Women are just as culpable as men for the lack of quality on such platforms as this. It’s diluted itself to a meat market where commodity is king and nuance is overlooked. Deal with it for its real life value - you either click with someone or you don’t and that ratio is 90/10. Accept this and have other pursuits in life = no worries.

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  Sp_icemeup

  2 months ago

  Thank you for this post. I feel I have read it as it was intended which was not a negative to either gender. Really well written.

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  Temptress_T

  2 months ago

  I am really enjoying your view on what you are seeing in here. It is great to see male perspective on the behaviour of some males. I sometimes wonder if some are just seeking attention anyway they can get it (good or bad). I often hear comments that the younger males are the most disrespectful, however, in my experience I have found this is not the case. It is very easy to be 'unknown' in here and I think that will often impact the way someone decides to engage. I totally agree with your last statements that negatigity will not get you anywhere x

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  MsSuperFoxy

  2 months ago

  You are right OP. IMO Many men want positive interaction with women, but their own behaviour undermines it. Some users approach "adult spaces" thinking access to women’s attention or sexuality is owed to them. When they don’t get the response they want, the tone can turn very disrespectful. Respect, curiosity and good communication, usually lead to far better engagement. Ms Foxy

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  selfless__lover

  2 months ago

  I don't think anyone sets out to be deliberately disrespectful, but often it's a red flag coming out after rejection that should be a validation of why you weren't attracted to them in the first place. Everyone will always put forward the best version of themselves when trying to impress or win over someone but when they get rejected or are dealing with someone they aren't interested in or see as beneath them (wait staff is a good test) then you see their true colours come out. I've been on a date and really feeling a great vibe, until she caught the waiter going past and gave him an expletive laden serve as our meals were taking too long. Instant turn off and lost all interest at that point.

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