More than one 'O'

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Sadly I can relate to both your girl friend and yourself as I did not climax untill age 38 and still struggle with it on a mental level with a partner but not so much trouble with a vibe or flying solo (still not easy!).......I think it is mind over matter with me and many others, something blocking you mentally not sexually as the brain is the biggest sexual stimulant. Consequently my libido is always high almost as though my body knows it has not been fullfilled so move on to next experience looking for the elusive trigger or partner that might awaken my ability to climax. Even tried hypnotism recently much to the amusement of a couple of my friends who climax easily and often....a girl has to do what a girl has to do!   Does that mean I am a mental case and need my head read to solve this problem, I am afraid to get professional help as I just know they will try to work out why I have my current life style and am not ready to have that taken off me just yet?So in answer to your Q......You are not alone!

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  14 years ago

  im multi orgasmic and its damn exhausting   some days it isnt all its cracked up to be   Hugs

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  14 years ago

  I know there are all women workshops to explore this op...I have seen them advertised....your topic made me think of that scene in When Harry Met Sally...where the woman at the next table says to the waitress'I want what she's having'. Sounds to me that you are already very orgasmic,is the search for more because this amount of pleasure is just not enough ,or is it, an expectation that all women should be multi orgasmic ,just as some think that all women should squirt. Have you asked your friend what or who she is doing differently now? Good luck in your quest ,and may you find the magic OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOs

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  14 years ago

  My firt O didn't happen till I was about 36 (and I was alone at the time too!). Now, as long as the guy knows what he's doing and what buttons to press, they can just go on forever once I start.   My advice is get to know yourself first and what gets you going and what keeps you going so you can guide partners in what does it for you and doesn't do it for you.

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  14 years ago

  It never ceases to amaze me. Human nature being what it is, very few of us are satisfied with what we have. The great majority of women fit into the same category as yourself, one orgasm is all that is acheivable by most. Honestly, accept what you have and work with it. Yes it would probably be fantastic to be able to cum and cum and cum....but why? Those that can say that each one is different in intensity, not all are huge, wonderful things and many are smaller orgasms. I am happy with what I have. Many times it is environmental and I can count on one hand (with several fingers down) the number of men in my life that have actually been able to even bring me to orgasm, let alone multiples. I also get extremely sensitive afterwards but I find that if I have one orgasm and then fool around for a while, fifteen, twenty minutes and some of the sensitivity is gone, enough to begin again. The second orgasm is a long time coming and nowhere near as intense as the first but I can get there........trying is half the fun then. .   Be thankful you CAN orgasm.

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  14 years ago

  I have great orgasms, but have also wondered what it would be like to just go and go ...and go. I tend to be very sensitive after the big O too (sometimes even to the point that while I'm in the throes it feels so damn good I get the urge to throw my partner off as its so bloody good its unbearable... frustrating) Don't even go near my nipples when that happens you could cop a swift punch in the face... On the positive side though, with some more kissing and cuddling I'm usually good to go again in a few minutes.   Would like to know if other women have experienced this same over sensitivity...

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  14 years ago

  Its all in the pace and timing of the foreplay. If you want to have multiple orgasms, then extended you need periods of foreplay and real 'connected' intimacy and kissing for hours, you then have a 15 min break, grab a drink, breath deeply and begin sex by penetration of the penis, consistently paced and you'll reach multiple orgasms. It will be sensitive after the first orgasm, but endure it and you will find that you will orgasm quite quickly after the first one, with the consistent stroking of the gspot by the guy. Then again and again. It's all in the foreplay 'priming' your blood vessels and nerves for the orgasm, then that break, then the right medium, strong stroking after. No offense to the woman who said 'take what you get and be grateful', but every female can have multiple orgasms. The female body was designed to have them. The secret is the foreplay and connectedness with your partner. There is a spiritual element to this as well I reckon. So dont give up. Takes a bit lf effort and a guy willing to learn thr science of it. Orgasmic

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  14 years ago

  Be thankful you CAN orgasm.Lol, don't misunderstand me, I am absolutely thankful and the ones I have are incredible. It's just that its 'game over' for me afterwards and you are absolutely right, we (people) always want more of a good thing!If its not something that's ever going to happen, then I accept that happily, but if its something I can learn, then that has to be a happy thing

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  14 years ago

  On the ABC's Catalyst science show last week was a special on women who are crippled by constant arousal and orgasm.Couldn't watch it all as our kids love the show and we had to pretend it was having a week off, but what we saw was an eye opener.It's available on iView if anyone is interested (see the ABC web site).

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  14 years ago

  Is not all it's cracked up to be . I have NO off switch once turned on, which feels great etc etc but it is exhausting and ultimately you never feel totally "done" As long as the build up is fantastic , getting to the actual orgasm is half the fun ! Enjoy your one big o :)

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  14 years ago

  Might help baby_face but I don't think that there is a set formula. I generally orgasm 4 times and that is usually in about 20-30 min....we have kids that are terrible sleepers so we have got it down to an art. 1 oral 2 vaginal and 1 anal in that order and there is often no more oral in between as I want penetration. and I can keep going and they seem to get less intense but not always they can also be the opposite.I have also orgasmed 7 times in 3 hours with no foreplay.More chance with a partner that is familiar with you- otherwise communicate.If you are that sensitive then try to de sensitise- masturbate often and penetrate yourself with interesting objects ;) I masturbate heaps as my man is often away. I would think that oral in between would be too much. I would request the deeper/ slower strokes.Cass xxx good luckQuoting 'Baby_face' Its all in the pace and timing of the foreplay. If you want to have multiple orgasms, then extended you need periods of foreplay and real 'connected' intimacy and kissing for hours, you then have a 15 min break, grab a drink, breath deeply and begin sex by penetration of the penis, consistently paced and you'll reach multiple orgasms. It will be sensitive after the first orgasm, but endure it and you will find that you will orgasm quite quickly after the first one, with the consistent stroking of the gspot by the guy. Then again and again. It's all in the foreplay 'priming' your blood vessels and nerves for the orgasm, then that break, then the right medium, strong stroking after. No offense to the woman who said 'take what you get and be grateful', but every female can have multiple orgasms. The female body was designed to have them. The secret is the foreplay and connectedness with your partner. There is a spiritual element to this as well I reckon. So dont give up. Takes a bit lf effort and a guy willing to learn thr science of it. Orgasmic

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  14 years ago

  My own experience (well, not mine as I don't have a vajayjay) is that one partner can go on and on and on with no break. She has got to 8 or 9 by my count. Then she's exhausted and has one or two have been grand-mals. No more to be had, even though she still finds the stimulation pleasurable. She can have penetration, clitoral, g-spot orgasms. And she reports they are all different but intense.   Another 'acquaintance' of mine never had an orgasm until her thirties and then it was by accident. She was convinced she was a one-trick pony - too sensitive to continue. She went 'bang' with a minor 'O' and quickly dropped off the mountain and was too touchy almost to the point of pain.   It took some patience, but I found by limiting stimulation to the very bottom of her labia and touching very, very gently with little dabs with my tongue she could bear it, and feel herself stay 'on the plateau' rather than come down, and it didn't take long before she was encouraging me to lengthen my stroke and start moving my tongue upwards.   After a minute or so, we were back to me flicking up under the hood of her clit, and she was grinding her hips into my face. The second one started being a toe-curler, face-clamper (ear-breather)! Now she often has two small ones, and feels urgency for me to keep going and the third is a 'fireworks behind the eyeballs' - her words. They have also been reducing in time arriving, so there is something psychological going on, I'm sure. She is just maintaining a condiiton of higher arousal.   My other friend, she takes a long time, can't bear any stimulation even on her inner thighs afterwards. But when she goes off, it's like Vesuvius errupting and you can see waves of muscle rippling down her ribcage to her stomach. She says it almost hurts, it's so intense.

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