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Plain rude
April 27 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes we can simithise with you, we think it must happen to everyone at some stage or another,so then you do as we did and invited approx 12 lots of couples/singles around for the same night , allowing a ratio of approx 4:1 of no shows and then like it did for us, it back fired and everyone actually attended, we must say it turned out to be a very eventful and interesting night to say the least and everyone here on the night had the time of their lives…. Since then we’ve not had that problem again, it is actually a case of making our screening process even tighter to get through the mounds of flirts and messages that we receive from time to time, as a rule of thumb we’ve found that the more friends on a profile the more chance it would be that they won’t turn up and had no intention too! So unless there is something really amazing and unique about a certain profile that does have this then we’ll send a flirt….. Well best of luck and we really hope your chances of meeting some outrageously fun kinksters comes along for you really soon PKC xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's just common courtesy to let someone know that you can't make it or you've changed your mind. Even when you show up n don't like what you see or not happy to continue the meet, don't just storm out be couteous and mature. Nevertheless, common courtesy is very expensive don't expect it from cheap people. Happy meets all- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Honestly the manners of some people....:-(. Sorry to hear you guys were stood up for the 3rd time. Such is this a game of hit and miss, you will eventually find some very genuine people who do what they say and meet when they say they will. Not that this makes any difference, but was this the same couple or was it three other separate people?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Never done it myself....But had it done to me on 3 occasions. Maybe they just chickened out... Not who they say they are... But yeah its more than rude especially when you have travelled several hundred Ks to meet them ! ..
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RHP User
13 years ago
I find the longer you leave it the more likely it is one of us will cancel , same day or next day is best and confirm an hour or so before not with SMS or email but on the phone talking , SMS and email is killing everyone's ability to communicate and interact make the personal connection by talking and shortly before meeting .....from experience don't organise for 3 or 4 days or longer in advance especially for first couple of meets / hook ups
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just beware, I predict it is a pretty common thing on this site. Also you are looking for women only to play with, try speaking on the phone or something before meeting or organising a meeting because I think you will be surprised at how many of the women profiles are actually men. Anyway good luck with your search and if you ever looking to switch and start looking for men, I'm here lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Never experienced a no show, but can totally understand the frustration seeing that you are a couple and would have worked up something that you both were meaning to discover/ experience.I'd say maybe not confirm weeks in advance but rather a few days.Hope you weeded out the fake wankers to the genuine... Happy gathering :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
As I have said in other forums similar to this OP my personal opinion is there are many ego stroke's on here people who are just out for the ooo look how many messages/flirts I get. Yep it is a piss off when you have traveled a distance on the understanding you are meeting up with someone after weeks of email ping pong, phone calls and messages only to be sitting where you are meant to meet someone and they are a no show and then don't reply to the messages or phone calls to see if they are ok.
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RHP User
13 years ago
is because the WOMEN who you are planning with.. are really males ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, we've been there paid for sitters, paid for a room and those single guys never showed. Such a pity they cannot be named and shamed, a couple are on this site and do not deserve the pleasure of honest friendly couples.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That is a single man's thinking!! Meeting people on the same day or within a few days isn't an easy thing for a couple with kids to do!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Can I ask does anyone ever go to swingers clubs or other events to meet single women or men? It's much easier meeting people face to face than trying to build a connection online. It can be very daunting for a single woman to meet a couple so meeting them first for a coffee or something would probably work much better.... Or do you do this already?
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RHP User
13 years ago
sometimes they do show up, they scope you out and piss of again without introducing themselves.Why? fuck, who knows, childish game, bitter revenge, gutless, selfish ? Just a personal theory.
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sweetgem
13 years ago
You either get stood up or pushed to meet up on this site! I haven't been stood up yet, but have experienced the bombarding type and the disrespectful type where men showed so much interest in our chats, but suddenly disappeared without a trace for a while, and then sent me an email again with crappy excuses when they could not find anyone to pump! I just laughed at their emails and pressed the delete button without any hesitation! I don't have time for that! Sigh! Talking about people's genuineness and quality! Lol
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DonnaBrett
13 years ago
In these situations have you actually spoken on the phone to the person/s you are going to meet? Don't rely on texts, sms, chat etc. A phone call isn't going to guarantee that they'll show up...but at least you know he/she/they are real people. Too many losers living in dream world out there but when it comes to meeting in the real world they run a mile or alternatively are just fools who enjoy wasting people's time!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I didn't read it properly the " we " part , still same principle applies meet quick before interest starts to flail - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think many live out their fantasy here and get lost in the lifestyle ' so when the reality of what they just arranged hits them right between the eyes they freak out.. Suddenly' what they played around with for maybe a few years has suddenly materialised and reality sets in.. panic, get scared or whatever, so the best way is to just not show up and leave some poor bugga stranded somewhere.. The faceless men and woman of the cyber world...I agree with Cavey, I think some of the sick puppies are probally men who have nothing better to do but be a pain in the arse... or women who are not quite the glamour they make out to be.. Whichever, these types will always be a part of any adult site wherever you go.. You know, Clark Kent and Lois Lane of a day and once behind the wheel of the computer at night' a vampire.. ?I've been lucky I guess, but I always insist of a meet first before anything... a safety net for both...I also agree with Meeks.. Probally a swingers club is the best bet. Never been before, but thats going to change very soon.. Will have to be a Sunday for me the way I understand it...Jay...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have never stood anyone up. Just saying...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'sensualbicouple' Not that this makes any difference, but was this the same couple or was it three other separate people? Same couple or different ones?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Can I ask does anyone ever go to swingers clubs or other events to meet single women or men? It's much easier meeting people face to face than trying to build a connection online. It can be very daunting for a single woman to meet a couple so meeting them first for a coffee or something would probably work much better.... Or do you do this already? Swingers clubs are a great way to meet. Safe, relaxed, and if it does not work well there are other options if there is some horn in the mix. LOL For girls I think it is the best and safest way to meet new play mates. Right on Meeka.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi we always talk on the phone first and then if possible (and it does take time and effort) we try to start with a social meet for coffee or lunch etc. This has been working for us, fakes don’t want to meet for a coffee. No fantasy in a cup of coffee . Had you talked to these people / couples?, on the phone first?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi OP, I am wondering how much you message or text before organising to meet? I have found that the more messages you send to a particular couple before organising a meet, the less likely you are to actually meet them. I don't know if others have found this correlation but it seems to hold for us. Therefore we got around it by suggesting a meet for drinks or dinner after the second message in order to do the "get to know ya before getting it on" thing. We try to make the date not too far in advance as people seem to get second thoughts or forget and have to cancel. So far it's worked to weed out most of the time wasters, you just never hear from them again. Is our approach perhaps too direct for some? Perhaps, but we are looking for like-minded people on here, not people interested in the thought of swinging but too scared to actually try it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
A couple of msgs and some decent pics shared, followed by a phone call, if everything seems in order. Then plan to meet for a meet and greet. It working for us, fingers crossed.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Great tips - Thank you. We just joined yesterday so still 'feeling' our way around. Courtesy costs nothing, I would also take a dim view of no-shows without so much as a 'Sorry - Chickened out' at least.
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