Respect the unicorns!!!

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  Paradisepair

  11 years ago

  I'm part of a couple, but at times when we're apart we both have permission to play. Solo - many couples make as much (or rather as little) effort as the single guys who give guys bad name, not reading your profile, sending messages with zero information or conversation in them, etc. Couples can be as flaky, as likely to not follow through and as polite or as rude as some of the single guys we engage with as a couple. I dislike to generalise, and I'm pretty sure there are unicorns out there just as rude, lazy or self-absorbed as some of the guys and couples I, you or anyone-else here have encountered. As a unicorn with a detachable horn my beef with couples was around behaviour at parties where more than one lady completely cold-shouldered me, I guess because they wanted a guy in the mix besides their hubby. There was no real need to give me cold and indifferent 'go away' looks. But it was another unicorn who really got the hump when the guy she took to a swingers party took interest in me, and again I guess she thought that meant no cock for her. As soon as I saw it was about to blow up I backed right off but it still exploded. As a unicorn I got tips from an expert in addressing the women of the pair first, making them feel comfortable before really engaging them together. Really male, female, single or paired we should all endeavour to respect each other and our choices.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Of whether it is a couple or single person,a sense of entitlement is just plain ugly...xxFreya

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I've gotten the "but you're bi, so you must be looking for couples" messages and even a "you're just pretending to be a Unicorn because you think it's cool" response when I declined a couple's offer to meet. *Massive eyeroll* Having said that, in two and a half years I've only met one couple I didn't like. Some people are just unpleasant, whether guys, gals or couples.

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  Smilingwithfun

  11 years ago

  Look on the bright side, you found out early what they where like.

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  LifeUnscripted

  11 years ago

  Is there anything less sexy? Yeah, this is not just a unicorn phenomenon, but at the same time it has to be even more frustrating. At least when we have to deal with someone like that we can go home and laugh about it with each other. No one owes anyone sex. All you owe them is turning up when you say you will. There are all sorts of reasons why it might not work out that night. It usually does......I mean that is why we are here, but if it isn't right it isn't right. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  We show respect for EVERYONE, whether C, F or M....we treat everyone how we like to be treated. I truly believe that everyone deserves the right to be shown common courtesy at the very least. That being said when we do encounter pushy, rude or obnoxious people I am polite, if they are overly persistent I will get then claws out (after I've had a giggle at their expense I must admit). As a couple relatively new to the scene we have been shown the good and the nasty side of this lifestyle (and this site). I don't understand why a polite "no thanks" is often received so badly. We have received our fair share of no's, but geez........ move on life is too short and has too many other stresses to be hung up on the fact that a person doesn't want to have sex with you. Shaz

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Understand that a lot of couples are mucked around by others and I kind of even get the pushiness to some extent for the fear if somone else snatching them up . But getting ugly and calling people names when you refuse to hand over you phone number after 3 conversations makes me laugh even more. I can only imagine if you said no to something whilst playing . Would the boundaries and the word no be acknowledged then ??? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Hottie1

  11 years ago

  I am part of a couple but am the third with 3 very beautiful couples. I'm with Mrs Paradise, engage the woman first, it is them and their partner you are lucky to share, they deserve equal attention. In saying that though, the beautiful women of my couples are sexy, confident women themselves, they bring a whole lot to the play and are generous in their attention and care of me too. I consider myself one lucky lady, I've had nothing but wonderful experiences with my couples. Mary xx

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Being a single male here I've been told this story several times from lady's and the odd couple I've met in real life :( they all say the same things re people getting angry when rejected. I've been rejected by some here and always say that's ok no issues no hassles :) they always write back and say how refreshing that I didn't get angry :) respect is the key regardless of playing or not.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Respect is the key. I have had a private play session with a couple end abruptly (still don't know why, perhaps an emotional issue on their part), but I left with only care and concern for their wellbeing, but no further questions. I've also been stood up (meeting a lady in a public place), I wanted to express my concern for her welbeing also, but she had removed her profile/s already, perhaps a change of mind thing on whether to go through with any such activities at all? (My assumption as someone else had openly backed out of a meeting due to personal insecurities). Most times you won't get answers about situations, so best to not ask any questions, just accept the way events played out and move on.

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