M47
So....
November 28 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Certain insecurities inadvertently popping up initially serve as major indicator(s) and/or alarm bells and I'm gone - period. If he brings up his insecurities further down the track, I appreciate that he feels comfortable and/or trusts me enough to share and in doing so, potentially opens up a whole new level of intimacy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'KiwiBred' If he brings up his insecurities further down the track, I appreciate that he feels comfortable and/or trusts me enough to share and in doing so, potentially opens up a whole new level of intimacy. I agree with this statement. It shows that the guy trusts you and wants to create a new level of intimacy which of course means the guy must have feelings for you...well can mean that. Brings out all gooey feelings. As for someone I don't know well or strangers telling me their insecurities. My care factor is zero.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Just saw So... and I thought to myself, this is a wonderful stir...... Got nothing else though. See you have opted for off topic, so.... lets see what you are up too, popcorn. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lol I'm not ALWAYS taking the piss ya know or have something funny to say... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
But we like guys who are open and honest with us. It's much easier to navigate a relationship if you know what sorts of things trigger insecurity. Then you can reassure and avoid misunderstandings. It's helpful to be able to to understand your partner... No need for that with most of the 'relationships' on here though.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm Superman!
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madotara69
11 years ago
The truth comes out. Always thought the Peter Pan thing was a cover Brian.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Think nearly everyone will have some insecurities and I personally suspect those who have none are either not completely truthful or overly fond of themselves. I'd be hesitant to be with them, quite frankly. However, I do think think there is a big difference between admitting to insecurities and pointing them out in a way that sounds like someone is talking themselves down. The latter is rather unattractive to me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
What about if people just didn't to wish to talk about them?? Does that mean similarly to not being truthful or not admitting them?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Anyone HAVE to discuss their insecurities ..well not unless you were a New Yorker in the 1970s...of course Woody Allen made a career of it.. the irony of the narcissist is that while appearing overly confident they are a mass of insecurities..BTW,who doesn't love a bit of self deprecating humour :) xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' What about if people just didn't to wish to talk about them?? Does that mean similarly to not being truthful or not admitting them?? Not wanting to discuss their insecurities is everyone's prerogative. However I think that is very different than completely denying their existence.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think I'm too literal to appreciate it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
One of my friends always goes for these guys, she says she has an urge to "fix" them, which never happens of course, but she cant help herself. She genuinely wants to help them and make them feel secure and loved. Its a lovely way to be, but nothing positive ever comes of it. Myself, if I read someones profile in which they mention insecurities, it just makes me wary and I move on. Not being a bad person, Ive had stuff to deal with myself and dont need anyone else's.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh no,ya don't fool me :)hugs xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have never met anyone that does not have insecurities. Its the natural state of humanity, if you claim not to have any then I believe you must be lying. Even the best have it, a runner may be faster than every single person on earth, but one, his insecurity is not being the best, it drives him to improve and try harder. We need them, much of what we consider the greatness of humanity is driven by insecurity (abet a simplistic view) The big issue is how you deal with it, whether you can asses the reality of the insecurity. Some people let it run their lives, they fail because the have lost before they even start the race, they may not even try to start. For some these insecurities can be akin to a disability. Others manage to keep their insecurities locked away in their subconscious, they can do no wrong, if they lose the race it is not because they failed, but because outside forces intervened. Both these states are unhealthy. Why do girls like to hear about them?Think most posters have covered it. It shows trust, insecurities by their nature are things we try to cover, revealing our insecurity can leave us vulnerable. We elevate people in comparison with each other, if you are particularly attracted to someone that may seem to have it all, it is refreshing to know that they are just as normal as you are. They have insecurities, they have feelings, and fears. We can relate and level the play-field. The one good thing that life gives most of us is that with age we get wisdom, with that knowledge we can better understand our insecurity. Understanding them and being able to put them into proper perspective allows many to get more enjoyment out of life. No one will wants to hear about a completely misguided insecurity, there are limits to peoples patience and sensibilities. We all understand that it is possible to have misguided insecurity, that we at times need the perspective of another to help us understand that, but if you can not, or do not want to see it as nonsense you will not continue to have a sympathetic ear to listen. So.. insecurities are not negative, they help drive us to improve. We like to hear about them as it helps us relate and even out the play field. Talking about them shows trust, which in return gets trust. Now I hope my bum does not look to big...
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is a certain group of women you can pick up this way as they like to see if they can fix or change a man. There the only ones I stay away from as it can start to complicate your life not fix it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm quite comfortably secure with my insecurities. Don't need to discuss them, never admit anything lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I really enjoy talking to people who have a healthy awareness of themselves, what makes them tick, how and why they react to things etc. Self awareness usually leads to self-responsibility and given I can't bear blame games and playing the victim, I like self-responsibility a lot. If someone is talking about their insecurities in the context of being self-aware, reflective and learning and growing, I'm happy to hear it. If it's a whine, whinge, woe is me, or pointed finger at life/circumstance/other people being at fault, I have no patience for it. So sometimes I find hearing about insecurities to be attractive - if it deepens understanding and connection. Other times it's instantly off-putting. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mary Shelley was the ultimate fixer xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can't say I like hearing about them and often you can see them without having to discuss them.
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