M52
That'll do me
February 11 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh......ummm yes well umm what can one say........there not everyones cup of tea.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unobservant perhaps...... but a person is always within their rights to exercise their chosen preferences. Not what you wanted at the time, or to hear now.... but that's just the way it is..... ... especially when expectations are build before youve actually met someone. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
But i am going to on this oneImprezario she was very Unobservant indeed.I have no issue with Dreadlocks,I do not associate hair with personality stereotypes. My preference however is for men with hair on their head. I am not a fan of Bald,or Shaven heads.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Coffee first in a public place. You willy made that booking not your brain. It could have been a lot worse. Like you not attracted to a woman that just showed a nice face picture and then the rest of her did not do it for you. And opening a door to your house wearing just a robe can get you in all sorts off trouble. Some guys do not take no for An answer. I hope you work for yourself as it's not worth it for a coulda or maybe bonk
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's beyond me how someone could not know you have dreads. I noted your profile says Separated. Sorry to hear that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Time for that hair cut !!! Yet another valuable lesson learnt for every body ! Thank you emprezario ;-)) Next please !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
next, not really sure what the issue is tbh. Experience is what you get after you need it, next time you can see if they are interested in a dreadlock holiday. Then there won't be any hangups and you'll know if you need to take time off to be disapointed - lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
she was talking about the dreads on your head. Would have to assume she had changed her mind and would have found any reason to dismiss you. People are strange, what can you do.
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RHP User
12 years ago
no pressure, no expectations...should be just a coffee and meet/greet on first meeting.
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Really because she didn't like your dreadies, that's strange......and who won't like dreadlocks......😜
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's not something you would usually miss!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't like dreadlocks or long hair on a man. I'd be sure to check that out first before I go on inviting him to my house or me going to his. I guess that's why it's good to 'meet first then play later' - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Cheers to being separated! *clink* Refining your screening process is a fine art. Good luck.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Did you write this Forum to get the woman's attention because she rejected you?? I'm with DG on this one. You're lucky she even opened the door...she could've peeked through the window, seen your dreads and not even answered the door. I think there is more to this little story.. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
saw that too on your profile...."separated"...sorry to hear that. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I noted your profile says Separated. Sorry to hear that. Is that genuine expression of empathy or a beautifully subtle dig ? ... to savour schadenfreude is devilish you know ;) I'll go with the former and say thank you for caring Meander but I am still married, everyone I converse with is made aware of it (note to self: explicitly point out my hairstyle as well). No secret. The status change was part of an experiment and I have neglected to switch it back. Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Unobservant perhaps...... but a person is always within their rights to exercise their chosen preferences. Not what you wanted at the time, or to hear now.... but that's just the way it is..... ... especially when expectations are build before youve actually met someone. DG You're right Doug ... not what I wanted to hear but about what I expected. You're all over the place sometimes. The reason I detailed the message exchange was to highlight the fact the 'attraction' was not solely about looks (well supposedly at least) ... yet despite all the discussions on these forums about how the 'connection' matters to women the evidence of my experience is entirely destructive to that 'theory'. We're talking about a hair style not the creatively disguised 20kg or a 3rd nipple on your fore-head that was photo-shopped out. Same length, same colour as the pics ? Yes I do think it is a little shallow or fickle and it was hard to take to be honest. I understand it is not everyone's cup of tea ... a faith destroying experience to endure nonetheless.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Did you write this Forum to get the woman's attention because she rejected you?? I'm with DG on this one. You're lucky she even opened the door...she could've peeked through the window, seen your dreads and not even answered the door. I think there is more to this little story.. Foxy Can I have a little credit please Foxy .... it has nothing to do with grovelling for attention ? I'm just venting my disappointment and frustration. Lucky she even opened the door ? Really ? Well that hit the spot - thanks.
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RHP User
12 years ago
time for a haircut.. over a fck?? Fck that.. Listen to the band "The Beards"This BEARD stays... My Dad had a beard Coz my Dad wasn't shit When he died I decided I Would grow one just like it I grew it large and I grew it long I grew it thick and I grew it strong Then I had to find a job But at the job interview They told me I'd have to shave The beard that I had just grew They said 'We have a no-beard policy' I said 'You can't do this to me!' I said I won't shave I won't do what you say I won't shave I'm not gonna shave my beard away I won’t listen to what you say I don't need your job, don't need your pay This beard is mine and this beard stays So I went to Centrelink Thought I'd get me some welfare But the lady at the counter Didn't like my facial hair She said: 'You'll have to shave first, sir' So I stood up and yelled this at her: I yelled I won't shave I won't do what you say I won't shave I'm not gonna shave my beard away I won’t listen to what you say I don't need your welfare, don't need your pay This beard is mine and this beard stays So I wandered far from home Travelling across the land And I spread my bearded message Singing in my novelty band So if you're bearded and you’re proud Sing with us, and sing it loud. We'll all sing We won't shave We won't do what you say We won't shave We're not gonna shave our beards away We've got beards and that's OK You’re not my real father anyway These beards are ours and these beards stay There you go.. If you DON'T like my Dreadys woman.. I will go find someone who DOES!!!!!!!
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On_Safari
12 years ago
I'm big on dreddies either....Satan had dreadlocks, he used to get me to cut them to pull them apart, they were matted and greasy and gross. Sorry OP....just another impartial observation. I'm sure your dreds look pretty though ~ 😇 Indy
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On_Safari
12 years ago
You rock Cavey, wanna fuck? Lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yeah I think that most have totally missed the point of the story... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
But seriously, there's no guarantees, are there? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
What if SHE has the beard..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
but its locked.In any case I think its rude. She should have at least talked to you and see what person you are.I for myself try to find out a lot beforehand....it takes me a long time to meet up with someone.I think it was not polite to send you on your way like this.But then we are not on RSVP good luck next time
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are brilliant for holding onto when nothing else will do....... Mmmmm how far down your back do they go? I went to check your profile but it was unavailable :(
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hahahahahahahahaha King of the bearded clam nice work old man. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
eeeewwwwww Gross You could shave your head, that is much sexier than dreadlocks. Mrs Alf
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Well, if she doesn't like your hairstyle she sure as hell not going to like mine. I think she just got a bit... nervous... or the moment she had in her mind had already past by the time you got there... or, she was entertaining someone (two, three or four) else at the time. Plan B. lol. Back a few years when I actually participated in RHP, I decided that these meets are always hit and miss. It's a better strategy to have a plan B. Meet at a neutral place, where you will have plenty of fun regardless of whether or not the person you are meant to meet there shows up. That can be a little difficult for those RHP members seeking the more traditional interlude... but not impossible. There's a rocking' pub not 50 metres from couple's club, here in Sydney for instance... or meet at Hellfire Club.. or if you're the adventurist kind and need a good laugh, (and you must have an open sense of humour), meet at Aarows club, (but bring your dunlop volleys!). HugsGazpacho
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RHP User
12 years ago
To me it's the same as guys who will have sex with a woman, even when they aren't that into them, then disappear into the sunset never to be heard from again. It's the same feeling, and you know how many centuries women have been complaining about that!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't let it get you down is what I am saying... So she doesn't like dreadlocks. That is not a reflection on you as a person is it. Yes it is shallow, but sometimes there are things that people just dot find attractive. Guess that was one of them for her. So how did the experiment go? More interest as a separated man?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Imprezario' Is that genuine expression of empathy or a beautifully subtle dig ? ... to savour schadenfreude is devilish you know ;) Your anniversary forum was less than three months ago, so I thought maybe you split up recently.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That might have just been the only excuse........ It could have been that you were married? How far into chatting did you 'inform' her of this relevant piece of information............ She could have been pacing the floor thinking "other woman" before deciding she couldn't do it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bodacious_Tatas' Don't let it get you down is what I am saying... So she doesn't like dreadlocks. That is not a reflection on you as a person is it. Yes it is shallow, but sometimes there are things that people just dot find attractive. Guess that was one of them for her. So how did the experiment go? More interest as a separated man? No ... and more than a smidgen is still only 3/5 of fuck all - go figure :P ... The only change that seemed to make a difference was setting it to single. You will often read here that the women are instantly suspicious of "separated" and it seems that as far as refining searches go at least separated=married=attached ? Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Imprezario' Is that genuine expression of empathy or a beautifully subtle dig ? ... to savour schadenfreude is devilish you know ;) Your anniversary forum was less than three months ago, so I thought maybe you split up recently. Sorry Mes ... I shouldn't be so cynical ... this place will do it to you if you take it too seriously. Can I keep devilish while rescinding the rest ;) Quoting 'Litonya' but its locked.In any case I think its rude. She should have at least talked to you and see what person you are.I for myself try to find out a lot beforehand....it takes me a long time to meet up with someone.I think it was not polite to send you on your way like this.But then we are not on RSVP good luck next time I have nothing but respect for the way she handled the situation - she seemed almost distressed ... but I was confounded that someone who had viewed my profile at least 10 times hadn't noticed something in the "deal-breaker" category. It's not something you talk about unless asked ? I felt a little dirty being rejected out of hand like that ... live and learn.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Alfie13' eeeewwwwww Gross You could shave your head, that is much sexier than dreadlocks. Mrs Alf Second comment along those lines ? A shaved head is for hiding baldness / receding hair line ... or purely practical reasons for work / sport .... you sound like you are reacting to the stereo type of filth and bugs which is complete rubbish - how are they an either / or for a shaved head ? You actually need really long hair to get them started. They are washed 3 times a week like any other hair but require no daily shaving, no haircuts, no products, no brushing and importantly no helmet hair :) I'm cool with not liking them - just don't invite me over ;) I don't like short hair on women ? If a long haired 'friend' rocked up to a play date with a haircut I wouldn't send her home though ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Looks obvious from my seat you have dreadlocks.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The way I see it is a shaved head or short hair to me looks clean and tidy,it may be used by men with thinning hair on some occasions but I find it nicer than dreadlocks. Your right in your assumption that I felt they were perhaps dirty or something that much is true. Dreadlocks in my mind don't portray the image of a well kept 40 year old man, I visualize them on a younger person maybe someone under 25 but again that is just my opinion.I doubt I would turn and walk away had I arranged to meet someone but if it might determine the outcome of the meet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
OP
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On_Safari
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Alfie13' The way I see it is a shaved head or short hair to me looks clean and tidy,it may be used by men with thinning hair on some occasions but I find it nicer than dreadlocks. Your right in your assumption that I felt they were perhaps dirty or something that much is true. Dreadlocks in my mind don't portray the image of a well kept 40 year old man, I visualize them on a younger person maybe someone under 25 but again that is just my opinion.I doubt I would turn and walk away had I arranged to meet someone but if it might determine the outcome of the meet. It's called a mid-life crisis for a reason ;) I would consider myself to be well kempt ... I'm here precisely because I am not well kept :P "Your assumptions are the windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in awhile or the light won't come in"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Her: "Oh no you've got dreadlocks" Me: " You don't like them ? "Her: "No I can't do it "Me: "Did you look at my photos ? It is obvious - in all but one. Are you saying that after all this you're not interested all of a sudden just because you don't like my hairstyle ?" Her: "Yes ... sorry" Me: Turn around and walk out. Well quote me badly and call me fickle. He said, you don't like them? I said no. We sit for chats, im a little concerned, he asked about the photos. To be honest I'd only glanced at them, yes everyone i see them now, der. He wants to know am I serious? I really don't like them? Truly I do not. Well, no point forcing the issue, says he, as he stands up and leaves. I was into him, his imagination (ahem) and his poetic way of speaking. It didn't matter too much what he looked like. But those dreadlocks were going to touch me. Fickle my arse, gagging during sex should be saved for kinky blow jobs. May all dead hair end up in the rubbish, Deceptacon5.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is not shallow. It makes my tummy hurt just being within a meter of anyone's dreadlocks. I was patting myself on the back for looking past the length which I actually noticed. And, let's all remember, I didn't tell him to go.
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RHP User
12 years ago
He was not dismissed. His exit was petulant and sooky.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
HUMMMMMMMMMMMM By your post, was it you who Imp met?? Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I knew there was more to this story. Thank you for clearing it up for us.. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
See what happens when someone writes a forum about another person and scenario on here. Not a good look in my eyes, especially if they have not been asked or given a choice. Not having a go at you OP, it's happened to me before and I did not like it one bit. In fact It made me furious that I was not given a choice nor spoken to. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am separated, and state that in my profile. Personally guys that put "separated" I feel are probably more honest about their situation than the "married/attached". What's to stop a married guy to say he is single? "Separated" informs people that you are still legally married, but, not with your partner. Whatever you put though, people will still make their own judgement about whether they want to contact you. Good luck! :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'deceptacon5'He was not dismissed. His exit was petulant and sooky. Thanks for responding, always great to hear both sides. I was asked by a gentleman today why I chose to out myself when he alluded to me in a post (two actually) anonymously. It's because I believe in open disclosure and want the chance to tell my side of the story. Having an email I sent quoted with a few important titbits left out just annoys me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do NOT take this place seriously. It'll only do your head in.Don't get me wrong - there are some great people here if you can find 'em (youse guys know who you are, I hope..), but be aware that often you'll be left scratching your head and wondering exactly what the hell just happened.Onward and upward....or to use that oft uttered RHP catchphrase.....NEXT! CheersJAB
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry, but im not a fan of dreadies on a woman... But seriously, didn't she check out your profile?? I did and it is plain as day you have them?? WTF?? Maybe she needs to see OPSM?? lol!! Sorry to hear dude....nothing worse than rocking up raring to go and having to put the animal back in the cage so to speak!! lol!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't agree that meets should be over a coffee first. Having a coffee my not have changed the outcome This seemed a moment of lust that both people wanted to enjoy and that is all good. Perhaps she changed her mind or maybe the dreddies didn't to it for her. Maybe she did find you attractive and thought that she could do it, even though she doesn't like dreddies, but when she was faced with it she just couldn't. Personally I'm not a fan of dreddies, but I do look at the person not the hair. I have had sex with people who have them. Maybe she tried, but just couldn't. The plus is she did see you for who you are in getting to know you in the first place.
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'deceptacon5'He was not dismissed. His exit was petulant and sooky. Thanks for responding, always great to hear both sides. I was asked by a gentleman today why I chose to out myself when he alluded to me in a post (two actually) anonymously. It's because I believe in open disclosure and want the chance to tell my side of the story. Having an email I sent quoted with a few important titbits left out just annoys me. Entertainment value? Priceless.I love deceptacon5's g`string, btw... very spicy looking bit of butt right there..... AND I hardly think your (Meander) flirts were deceptive... I took one look at your fake profile pics and recognised those ta~tas instantly :p ... ok, the reference to "Meandering" in the wording of your profile was very helpful... If someone got upset about it... well... lar de dar to them for not reading the details! HugsGazpacho
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'deceptacon5'He was not dismissed. His exit was petulant and sooky. Thanks for responding, always great to hear both sides. I was asked by a gentleman today why I chose to out myself when he alluded to me in a post (two actually) anonymously. It's because I believe in open disclosure and want the chance to tell my side of the story. Having an email I sent quoted with a few important titbits left out just annoys me. What other side ? She just confirmed every word. I don't see how my "Sooky" reaction is relevant after the fact ? I admit I was a little put out. Took half a day off, traveled 30mins each way ... quite a waste of time and effort. Not sure how you expect I should have reacted ? Would be lover ... while you did not tell / ask me to leave before I took matters into my own hands you most certainly dismissed the idea of any sex. I'm quite disappointed it didn't work out - as a man it is not so easy to find a woman keen on the whole 'discreet daytime rendezvous' thing and I was quietly hoping it would go well enough to develop into something ongoing. I did learn a valuable lesson though and I thank you for that. I'm gonna go sook some more now.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' See what happens when someone writes a forum about another person and scenario on here. Not a good look in my eyes, especially if they have not been asked or given a choice. Not having a go at you OP, it's happened to me before and I did not like it one bit. In fact It made me furious that I was not given a choice nor spoken to. Foxy I conveyed the experience from my viewpoint and made a concerted effort to ensure her anonymity. She has made the choice to reveal herself as the other party but the "who" is not what the whole rant was about but rather the "why" and the "uniqueness" of the experience. Did I burn your village in a previous life Foxxxy ? It's how we rolled back then so please don't take it personally.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think a lot of people my miss what I consider to be a key point in this discussion.. Good on you Imprezario, for walking away. some people may have pushed the issue. No means No - even if you think it is a done deal. We may be reading a post about a lady feeling uncomfortable after someone did not leave off when she asked him to. B
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hmm.. Well I've met someone for them to think I was more muscle and or more attractive in pics. It happens an dont take to heart, (or Rhp Forum when the answer to question just needs 30secs of thinking time to be answered). In my opinion its got nothing to do with the dreads.. That's seems obvious as said the lady had seen a variety of pics. Alas, nothing to do with dreads.. Or is it just me.. Again!
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RHP User
12 years ago
An I can you saying, 'why she say that then" about dreads.. Well if you can't figure that out, GIVE UP..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hmm she said no cos of ur hair ??? What a goose !! ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Quoting 'Imprezario' Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I conveyed the experience from my viewpoint and made a concerted effort to ensure her anonymity. She has made the choice to reveal herself as the other party but the "who" is not what the whole rant was about but rather the "why" and the "uniqueness" of the experience. Did I burn your village in a previous life Foxxxy ? It's how we rolled back then so please don't take it personally. Not taking it personally at all. No you didn't burn my village, however I think IMP in this case, a bridge was burnt whilst you were standing on it. deceptacon5 had every right to voice her side. I don't think it had anything to do with your hair infact I believe expectations were not met by both parties. The only ""uniqueness" of the experience is one very valuable lesson. Foxy
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On_Safari
12 years ago
You pretty much said/implied directly you didn't ecen make it theough the door but was dismissed on arrival. You also alluded that you left with grace and was shocked/dismayed/disappointed/taken aback by her "rude" behaviour. Sorry mate but the lovely lady obvuously surprised you by NOT FEELING SHSMED by her behaviour and then apprised us of hervside of the story and your subsequent "petulant" behaviour showing yourself (agreeable for her) to the door with your cricket bat, stumps, balls and dreads in tow.....err 2 + 2 still = 4 sweetpea. Build a bridge mate. Hello deceptacon5 I think I love you (broad grin and a huge wave!!) ~ Indagine
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well aren't we a devilish little bunch... nothing like a tale with all the essentials - rejection, failure, confrontation and perceived deceit to ignite the curiosity of readers. More views on my profile in the last day than in the previous 6 months! Even made top trending post for a while there ... yeah. Not sure that everyone will be pleased but there is indeed a silver lining and happy ending to boot. D accepts my explanation that even if she had planned to be a sport and 'go along to get along' I didn't want that given it was clear she was no longer 100% committed ... leaving only polite awkward conversation on the table... which is why I just up and left. Of course further discussion revealed she still hates the locks and wouldn't have gone along had it unfolded differently, confirming the overall best result at hand was had by all. In hindsight a courageously honest woman which I like despite being on the receiving end this time. She seemed surprised any other women liked the locks and telling her that even my mum likes them was .. well weird and didn't sway her opinion for some reason ? Back on talking terms, no animosity either way ... life goes on with one more lesson learned and everyone's ultimately better off for the experience. Thanks for contributing and keeping the whole thing respectful ... My membership expires tomorrow and I'm not sure I'll renew so be good ! ... or at least careful.
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RHP User
12 years ago
its sad when people will judge you on superficial things...like hair or height or even foreskin?? But then they go on to preach about not judging by race or sex...?? Some people will find any reason to reject you...and YES it is THEIR problem. I just walk away and leave them with Their hangup...lots of cool open minded people out there :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I do think Deceptagon, there really was no excuse for you not knowing he had dreads.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was just wondering.....What hair color do they put on the driver's licenses of bald men
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Quoting 'Imprezario' I'm gonna go sook some more now. I like a good ol' sooky moment every now and again. It's not like you were anything but open and honest about your haircut, or lack thereof. By the way, don't cut your hair. We, the flower power children of the past are the only hope for the future. HugsGazpacho
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I am so happy to hear there is a silver lining and a happy ending. Well done my fellow poster. I like to hear about happy endings. :) It's made my Valentines Day. :) Love is in the air. Mwahhhhhh Foxy XXXX
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Nudierudie2' I was just wondering.....What hair color do they put on the driver's licenses of bald men Would you believe google returned 1.9 million results ? Turns out they mostly use the colour their hair would be if they still had some ... seems a little deceitful to me. I presumed the answer would be "none" or "ask me" or "see my photo" Another day ... another lesson ... Im on a roll
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