M54
Thought & experiences......
November 05 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Was this man impersonating a woman? I hear that goes on a lot around here
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was a little annoyed when another forum member borrowed a bit too much of my likes and dislikes lists. I remember neptune_drift's forum about finding out his entire profile had been stolen word for word. Not cool at all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Drives me nuts..I often see posts where the writer has been given no credit...The words have been taken from fb or elsewhere... I have also had two of my stories that I posted in RHP Sex Secrets reappear last month as new stories They are published here anonymously but I do recognise my own writing..I have also had some of my posts recycled...maybe I should be flattered .but I'm not xxFreya
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
This was also a word for word, it shocked me. I did pull him up on it too, after I asked him who had written it of course....
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RHP User
11 years ago
What was his excuse?
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
He simply just said that he loved it and that was how he felt..... I did say but it's not yours, they are not your words, with that he apologised and wrote his own.....
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
I often have parts of my profile paraphrased in messages to me, but presented as the writers own likes and desires. Some people would say there is nothing wrong with that. Call me a cynic but I always smell a rat... to me it smacks of trying establish rapport without putting in any effort. Sometimes I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed but I am passionate about the nuances of text and hate it when my words and phrases are used to convince me the writer is sincere and on 'my wavelength'. Try being original - it will have greater impact.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Why people feel it's ok to steal someone's words. Is it to make themselves look better, seem more intelligent? But something like intellect can't be stolen, thats a charade that someone will struggle to keep up with, it really doesn't take someone long to work it out on meeting or the continuous writing of things that don't fit....
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Yes agreed, I love what I write, it's me, my mind, my thoughts, I stand by my words, I believe in them and that's the way it should be....
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RHP User
11 years ago
... through and through & find I reiterate it throughout my comments from time to time. I think you're setting yourself up for failure and a whole world of disappointment if your profile is not indicative of who you are as a person and based on what you're looking for as opposed to what you think others are looking for - whereas if you're true to yourself first and foremost, your overall persona will resonate with like minded people.
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
It perhaps demonstrates a lack of confidence, it's easier to borrow a profile than talk about your self. It's hard to tell on the internet, it's such an illusionary space, married people pretending to be single, single guys posing as girls or couples. When it comes to the intern to think of William Shakespeare, 'Love all, trust few, and do no wrong to any.'
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't get mad- remember plagerism is the highest form of flattery. To be authentic is to be true to oneself !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some people can not put words on paper - especially about themselves. I would be flattered actually. THINK about it. Who said their profile is not indicative of them if they use plagiarism. Jeezuz we do it al the time anyway - especially those of us who write legal docs all the time - it is not new. Ok the smart ones change the wording tho still the same. You're all too serious sometimes MEH!
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6exxy
11 years ago
Its about me for others to see,read and understand.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are you also happy for someone too use your photos?
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you are looking for more than sex,you read a literate profile,someone's words resonate with you,and then you meet and it becomes obvious that the person is not who they say they are...it's exactly the same as someone using old or fake photos IMO.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just yesterday, in fact, I haven't told my friend yet but I suppose you ccould say it's a form of flattery. It was just so weird reading the same words on someone elses profile? It's well written so I can't blame him for copying it, but, it doesn't really take that much time to write your own, surely?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't like the idea of copied text at all. There are far better forms if flattery than that. It definitely shows a lack of intelligence and character to me. Mine is entirely original and accurate, and furthermore I did not check out other profiles to see what sort of things people write about before writing mine. I just prefer to do things my way, and feel that is compromised if I am taking cues from elsewhere. But this approach is part of my life, not just my profile here. I am always a little disappointed when I get messages / flirts from people and then find their profile is unoriginal or built with canned template components. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
That it's done all the time in legal documents, corporations around the world have been doing it for years. A lot of safety documents, management plans, books, music, quotes even songs have also plagiarised over time. But I'm talking more about constructing a profile, really how could it possibly be yours if it written by someone else, word for word, it is still deceit however you look at it. Yes I'm sure she was a little bit flattered, but it doesn't change the fact that it was her profile, written by her, for her. Yes I also understand that some people struggle to write about themselves, my own profile was nothing until the words came to me. But see when he did his own profile, it was good, well written, so he obviously could put his own words down, just choose not to and used someone else's....
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MissBishere
11 years ago
some definitions on my profile which I had copied from another profile on here but I did ask him first and he gave permission for me to use them. I've come across a few that I know are copied. Laziness I guess.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Most profiles are in se way similar to others because words and phrases are commonly used in our culture. Word for word copy & pasting though is not acceptable and at best shows a total lack of creativity - Posted from rhpmobile
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
We spent lots of time writing and editing ours, only to find it picked up by another couple, not terribly far away from us. We reached out, cease and desist in a nice way, they said it resonated with them but they did remove our wording... It's not cool...
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
MissB and there lay the difference in just taking...... I personal wouldn't have a problem if I was asked in helping someone write their profile and either would my friend, as I'm sure a lot of people wouldn't, because as some of you have pointed out some people just can't put their words and thoughts down. By no means do I think that my profile is articulate, but it's true to me.....
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Seachange73
11 years ago
My previous profile was copied by this woman, word for word. Lol. What can I do? I felt both flattered and annoyed at the same time. She was completely different person from me, her being white and 15 years younger and physcally, she is more of a Rubinesque woman. I do not know how she will stack up when the man she meets the man and he finds out that her personality is different from her profile. Specially when I mentioned that I sports train 3-4 times a week and do lots of running to keep fit. Lol. I did not do anything. Karma will kick in. Lol. The IP regulations on profiles are non-existent and therefore ungovernable. So I changed mine so I don't accused of plagiarism. No stress. Many months ago, I was also contacted by an another man from Queensland. His profile was an exact duplicate to that of a gorgeous highly intelligent man I have been chatting with and met while in Sydney. I brought this to his (Sydney man) attention and he felt the same way as I did. We both laughed and shrugged our shoulders. My Sydney man was the true McCoy and as sexy fun and smart as his profile. The thing is that when we talk to the person, we make a judgment whether their personality matches their profile. If not, we still have a choice to progress to meeting them or not. There is no way for one to verify that the profile is original or not so why stress? It is annoying I agree. But Op, glad you pointed it out to him. For me it is plain laziness. Profiles does not have to be elaborate. A simple one is preferable to the template profile (big turn off). We all can't be Shakespeare.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think just because you steal someone elses words that it doesn't make them untrue. I have often read something that sums up perfectly what I am trying to convey and they have just said it in a manner that rings true for me. I would consider asking if I can use them. Of course the polite thing to do would be to ask first, not just cut and paste. On another site I saw the same profile probably half a dozen times with different pics and it was the most cheesiest profile, lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
unwittingly carry things into their profile without realising . Not making excuses for this practice but words and sentences do tend to stick with some people sometimes. But if they intentionally stole from someone , thats different' that not only says something about the person but highlights their total lack of imagination and laziness . Im no Rhodes scholar as some keep reminding everyone, but everything in my profile has come from muah , mistakes and all. . I have noticed that dueing conversations in the forums, some people will repeat what already had been said. The mind does tend to grab onto thing's sometimes.. specially if you agree...
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RHP User
11 years ago
To copy mine. Though I have seen similarities in some profiles. Words not alone tell the story of the advertiser. Pictures supplement what Im trying to convey. Ide be really miffed if I found out my wording and pictures had been used on another site.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I suppose it is better than these template profiles that keep coming up such as below: - Hi I'm a woman , 29 years old, seeking other fun people. - I'm not afraid to ask for what I want in bed so watch out! - People often comment that I am attractive but you need to judge for yourself. - I love going out shopping and having coffee with friends. What always gets me with these is the pics are always too good to be true; they have heaps of friends but never any validations. I would rather someone that has at least taken the time to find and copy a profile that reflects them than this template crap that tells you nothing.
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
Quoting 'QLDtwo4fun' think of William Shakespeare, 'Love all, trust few, and do no wrong to any.' Does anyone else find it ironic that QLDtwo4fun is quoting Shakespeare on this post? I've had a person 'borrow' my profile content and so I messaged them something along the lines of 'gee, I love your profile, it sounds awfully familiar...' They owned up to having used my profile as 'inspiration' for their own because we 'seemed to be looking for much the same stuff' but then did not take it down after I politely suggested them doing so. I was pissed off (because yes, a well-written profile takes time and effort to get it right) but realised that: 1. As a woman no matter what she wrote she'd be popular 2. Eventually people would realise that she wasn't quite what her profile made her out to be... JR xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sure it's flattering, but I'm not keen on the idea of other people thinking I am the one plagiarising.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To copy or even paraphrase another simply does your self a disservice in the long run. Most people will spend a little time communicating in some form before deciding to meet. If the you were first attracted by a beautifully crafted write up only to be confronted with an inarticulate jumble of grunts then I for one would be so put off that any other redeeming features may well be overlooked. Whether it is wrong to do so? I don't think so in this situation, the user agreement on this site and almost all like it negate any copyright the author has. Though not 100% in the public domain it would be a stupendous waste of time to pursue any legal claims over a profile description. A profile is an advertisement, it is up to the discretion of the buyer to assess the worth of a product. If you are the impulsive purchaser you can fully expect the occasional lemon. Many here create a profile as a side note to their lives and a quick copy and paste is defiantly easier than deliberating over the perfect profile, and if I had the type of profile that others would copy, I would be flattered rather than upset if my words ended up under another's backside. My profile is 100% by me and 80% what I want. I say 80% (maybe less) because I find it hard to actually pin down what I want, with Monday morning having me want this and that while Monday evening sees me wanting just that... or this?
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I have lots of pretty photos, yes most are to good to be true, I also have a quite a few friends, most of which I've met and I also have validations, but I choose not to display and I'd much rather a profile written by that person, in their own words.......but we are all different.... Because really if someone is going to lie about their profile, what else are they lying about. A question which I put to the man in question by the way...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Anyone who.wants to copy my profile is not going to profit from it. ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
a pal of mine is on rhp & another site, and in searching or signing up to the site my friend told me, that some chick 'stole' my cleavage picture, I'm like what? So be careful people ya never know! As for my profile it's def genuine! Those whom have met me know I'm real!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Years ago, and I can't remember how I found out.Didn't really care too much. Hope it worked better for him than it did for me. Cheers, N
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RHP User
11 years ago
it's got to come from you. I re-wrote mine with the help of a friend but that was done with their full knowledge and I think that's ok. But just ripping someone else's stuff is very flaky indeed!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I copied mine from yours. Ta. Saved me heaps of time.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' Are you also happy for someone too use your photos? I would say they get used to wank over so um.......I don't care really. Flattering really If I send photos I am aware of consequences. How safe are our photos on here? About as safe as a Nun entering boarding a boat load of Jack Sparrow's who have been out at sea for 12 months. Just Sayin
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RHP User
11 years ago
I suspect the reason people copy is that they see someone they like, see their friends and copy there profiles so you like them too, or other people, as obviously if a gorgeous man/woman like you have success and friends etc, it may work for them. (Anything for sex).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' If you are looking for more than sex,you read a literate profile,someone's words resonate with you,and then you meet and it becomes obvious that the person is not who they say they are...it's exactly the same as someone using old or fake photos IMO. I do prefer the template profiles as you already know they are bullshit and it is intriguing to actually find out about the person through chat. I find too much on a profile bores the hell out me. It's like blah blah blah - tho I do have the attention span of of a fish called Dory - "Oh look something shiny' They are the same really as we all have similar qualities - after all we are human.
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' Drives me nuts..I often see posts where the writer has been given no credit...The words have been taken from fb or elsewhere... I have also had two of my stories that I posted in RHP Sex Secrets reappear last month as new stories They are published here anonymously but I do recognise my own writing..I have also had some of my posts recycled...maybe I should be flattered .but I'm not xxFreya Freya I too have seen one of my stories put back up in sex secrets. But what i think you may notice is that your story like mine was dated the 1st day of the month for the new competition. Also more than one posted at that date so I think its just a way of filling the space till new stories come in is all. I have suggested to people to look at other peoples profiles to see how they are written instead if just choosing the boring phrases u can choose from. But didnt think people actually use them word for word how lazy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am kind of new to this and yes I do write my own and have changed some of it however it is all my own...in messages I write an individual one to each person I reach out to and say hello to...I do not copy or use templates for anything in post or send on here...I agree sometimes others may get stuck with words of reply or copy another profile but this does happen on the internet all the time sadly
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Some people can not put words on paper - especially about themselves. & don't automatically dismiss generic profiles for that reason. 'Word for Word' instances aside, it seems unrealistic to think that some people don't share the same views and have similar ways of expressing themselves using the exact same English language - I don't think anyone can really lay claim to 'owning words' in that respect. Whilst I think plagiarism is an extremely serious issue when it comes to innovative ideas, life changing concepts, educational institutions & actual literary authors (to name a few), I jut don't see it as being on the same level within the realms of RHP.
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abcplus1
11 years ago
We make up our own lies :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
My profile rantings have (and remain) my own words and styles that I have developed over time. I do notice that guys occasionally checkout my profile even though I'm clearly straight and I have heard from others that bits and pieces have turned up elsewhere. I've never bothered checking out the profiles of these guys - maybe I'm a little uber-straight. I'd prefer not to have my stuff copied as, over time, my own stuff starts to look too much 'same old, same old'. Maybe it encourages me to rethink/revisit my profile from time to time to come up with something new but I prefer to leave mine so that it doesn't shut down for review - don't like the thought that people wanting to read through my profile after I've visited theirs might think that I've blocked them - lol - I didn't list paranoia as one of my attributes.
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RHP User
11 years ago
my profile is as original as I can make it while keeping it as accurate as possible.This thread helps me understand ONE possibility for so many men checking out my profile. I seldom check out men's profiles.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Both of my stories were written and published almost two years ago...I think RHP can probably do whatever they like with them...it is a competition though and if my story wins again.who gets the fifty dollars:-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
and a small one at that. I agree with Inspirit. It just reflects life and not everyone majors in english lit. I think it unkind to hold to a literary legalism while labeling people with negatives such as lazy, unintelligent etc. and kind of a character oxymoron. Original thought is never original for long, and if the idea, story, song, character fashion is really good everybody wants to copy it. When the zombie apocolypse happens you're not going to worried about literary standards, you're going to want to find someone with a big gun screaming AAAAARRGGGH!! shoot the fuckers !!! Bonus is you might get laid as well ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting :"Tempting, Sure it's flattering, but I'm not keen on the idea of other people thinking I am the one plagiarising."Fair point Meander. For whats its worth, you have a great profile- simple yet informative, sexy sensual and cheeky with class and poise- worthy of plagiarism :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I drop in now and then, don't comment much here these days.Hope you're well, and life is kind. Cheers, N
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nice to see an old shadow in here again. I too come and go - Rev them up then leave the carnage
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RHP User
11 years ago
was originally written by my husband because I did not know that he made us Members of RHP. Since becoming "interested", I have amended it twice by putting, in my own words, something about who I am and what I am looking for in a man. Even though we are a "Couple", our Profile is confusing because it is mainly about "Me". That's because my husband only wants to gets involved as "a voyeur", if our "Red Hot Fantasy" is to be fulfilled. I have not noticed if other Members have used any of "my/our" words on their own Profiles. If they do, it wouldn't bother me and I'm sure my husband feels likewise. Amy Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JessicaRabbit' I've had a person 'borrow' my profile content and so I messaged them something along the lines of 'gee, I love your profile, it sounds awfully familiar...JR xx JR you dealt with that plagiarism so well,tothe point but not as confrontational as some might have done. I might add that your profile is a beauty and is probably in the top 10 of all profile's I have seen. I recently complimented another woman on her profile too, she knows who she is.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Someone who I have chatted to off the forum has an excellent profile, it is as she says a long one, but it is one of those rare beauties that stands out from the rest. If you've read you may well know whose it is.
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tendertrio
11 years ago
Quoting 'bianca_dd' I copied mine from yours. Ta. Saved me heaps of time. check your badoo
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RHP User
11 years ago
Words aren't important to some people,but words are important to me...some would say that there is no such thing,as original thought,therefore everything that is said or written is up for grabs..I would say that our thoughts and putting our thoughts into words is a synthesis....I don't mind who uses my words,I just mind if they don't give me credit for them...I try extremely hard to give credit to whomever I quote and will say if I don't know or can't source it,....I don't know who said this but blah blah blah.....,and in the words of Slippery Halo "words are my bitches" 😉xxFreya
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Words are definitely your bitches Miss Freya, you just seem to have such a way with them.....💋
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