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Tough question
July 14 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
for me , it a personal preference, some ppl have a family and jobs that they need to keep ,there is a warning stating the photos become the property of the site your using ,and therefor they can use your photo, for advertising or promoting the site ,once your photo is in the world of cyber space,it can turn up anywhere ,for instance your photo may end up on a upskirt video site or white panties site,anyone can take a pic off computer and repost anywhere they want ,apparently a pic of Katie curic the American news anchor is on here looking for fun ,,,I don't think so ,I think that prevention is better, each to there own.,im shy ???
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Seachange73
8 years ago
Welcome to Rhp. Some people just like their privacy and would like to keep their Rhp life separate from their work or family life. For whatever reason. I think that after chatting for a while and it's been established that there is s connection, showing facial pics should be okay. Else thry either just playing you, not sure yet of who you are and whether to trust you or they are just embarrassed because they're... frigging ugly. 😜 You said you have your theories. Please share as you raised the subject. I am curious. Have a great rhp experience! Nice to see new blood in the forum. New fresh perspective. Keep posting. 😊 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
Our theories are, to show pics to give an open and upfront veiw to perspective matches, to give perspective matches a chance to see if there could be a spark before having to invest any time into the profile couple, as well as profile couple needing only to respond to genuine interest rather than just curiosities.. ..On the other hand, privacy and safety issues can be very real, we also have family we need to consider but hope the vast majority of couples can be mature and consider others with the same privacy we would all expect.. ..so in conclusion, we do have our own veiws and favour both ways for their merits and not set on either way just yet,.. would love to hear the perspectives from even more experienced couples.. Hope this might help anyone else that may be unsure of all the things to consider when posting profile pics.. Jay and Amber. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Personally I don't show my entire face in my public gallery pics purely for professional reasons. And as lilyorchid said above I like to keep my personal life (and certailnly my RHP life) separate from my work life. Although having said that once I have started chatting with someone and have gotten a sense of whether they are genuine or not (and I have been mistaken at times as I am sure others have), I am more than happy to share face pics. After all, I expect to see the face of the person I am chatting with and think it's only fair if I do the same.For me to be attracted to a man it has to be the entire package ie.face and body that I find attractive (although so many men think a cock pick is sufficient instead of a face pic)I have lost count of the number of messages I have received from men saying how gorgeous or stunning they think I am without having seen a face pic (based purely on my body as my full face is not clearly visible) It actually makes me smile and has made me wonder whether for men the face of a woman even matters...I know it certainly does for me.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thiats a great response, one thing we did not know (i guess we didnt read the disclaimer) is that pics become propertyof RHP, and another point you mentioned is veey worthwhile considering is pics being reused by third parties, we did fortunately keep our face shots G-rated and our x-rated with faces cropped out for that reason.. So, glad we asked and we are learning.. Thanks again David. -Brisfuncple - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I prefer to have my face pictures on my public profile, it saves that embarrassing situation where you're talking to someone and it's all going well until you send them a face pic and all of a sudden they go quiet, I have to be honest and say I'm guilty of doing that to other people. Personally I don't mind too much if my friends or family found out I was on here, I've already told those close to me that I used to swing and I'm not in a career that could be compromised if someone found out. I totally understand and respect why some people op for Anonymity though
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Because of my job and my ex. I would prefer to show them to be honest as it saves any ambiguity but because I see clients in my local area I can't. I also live in a fairly small area where lots of people know me and my family so wouldn't like to be recognised. I show them as quickly as possible if I like someone although if you are local to me I like to establish that we don't have some weird 6 degree separation connection. Its probably a bit different as a single woman. In a couple you have your partner to have your back so maybe you can be less cautious.
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RHP User
8 years ago
And it is debated often on the forums. Mr LAL and I will never put face pics on this site- for me.... it's purely to protect my privacy both professional and private. Professional.... the department I work for has a " disrepute" component to employment.... so if I am identified on here ( where a face pic can be screenshotted with the Rhp heading) then although I may not actually lose my job- it could lead to a pretty messy situation that I am not prepared to experience. 2. Same situation could arise with friends of our grown children identifying us. Once again- not prepared to go through that.... was traumatic enough for me to come clean about our deception with Santa, Easter Bunny and the Toith Fairy. When chatting to potential friends from this site we are upfront and say we have face pics that we email from an account set up just for exchanges from this site. Therefore, there is no direct connection between the pics and the site. At the end of the day- you choose people based on your criteria. If that includes insisting on face shots in the galleries then go with that. If you are comfortable with people emailing then go with that If you are happy to just meet without seeing faces then go with that The reasons why some do and some don't are many and varied- some are trying to pretend to be something online that they aren't and some are just private people keeping this area of their life private. Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
And most are valid to the owners. But after chatting for a bit, I expect a face shot preferably in the private gallery. Open for other means though. If they won't comply l presume he/she/they are fakes or have faces like a robbers dog. One admirer insisted that the private gallery was unsafe and talked me into an emailed pic. Thing was it was from his work email with all the details included. People do not have a monopoly on stupidity....... Anyway, ask. If no then swipe on. There are plenty of others to replace them for the women, couples and transto play with
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RHP User
8 years ago
Everyone has a station in life at 1 point in time. That station may not be for the majority, but for 1 at that time it is theirs!
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RHP User
8 years ago
We have face pics in our second pg the first is just some sexy picsWe are happy to swap face pics but we often get requests from people who don't even have pics on their profile at all.'Just a comment who hates getting sent a close up dick pic in a pg
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usnow
8 years ago
There aren't many reasons why a single guy or girl cant have a face pic here , after all its just a dating site for them unless they are seeking something out of the ordinary .When it comes to couples it gets a bit more complicated in how society views what they are seeking here . Usnow .
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'EarthQueen' Because of my job and my ex. I would prefer to show them to be honest as it saves any ambiguity but because I see clients in my local area I can't. I also live in a fairly small area where lots of people know me and my family so wouldn't like to be recognised. I show them as quickly as possible if I like someone although if you are local to me I like to establish that we don't have some weird 6 degree separation connection. Its probably a bit different as a single woman. In a couple you have your partner to have your back so maybe you can be less cautious. A bit lazy of me to do this, but it sums me up perfectly.
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RHP User
8 years ago
The reason I Ve got a face pics in my public gallery is because I Ve got nothin to hide , confident with who I am and if someone I know see me here well I guess we got more in common than we think lol I think it can help avoid wasting time too , I like kissing my partner while having fun so if I don t have that attraction I ll be honest and will tell her straight away I understand why some girls or couples don t show faces and I usually don t ask for a pics , I rather let them feel comfortable enough to do it by them self - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
if you hide your face you are either ashamed of being on here, are a very private person or dont want to be caught cheating. either way you should show a face pic if soneone asks. no one judges on genitalia pics alone! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
When I'm single I have a face photo up when I'm not I feel it's not respectful to who I am seeing to have one or have super revealing photos up - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We all like a perve and that's fine but if I'm looking to hook up with someone for whatever I'd rather see who not what I'm talking to - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We all like a perve and that's fine but if I'm looking to hook up with someone for whatever I'd rather see who not what I'm talking to - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Again, thanks for all of the different perspectives and preferences offered, some of which we knew and some that have helped us with our choice and all of which are valid, We would love to continiue to have face pics to help keep it simple for anyone that might be interested in contacting us, but i think the privacy side will win in the end.. Again, thanks for all of the replies.. very helpful.. have a great weekend everyone :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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DonnaBrett
8 years ago
We show our faces in public gallery. We understand that some people don't want to and that's fine...HOWEVER when people message us or flirt and don't show their face with that initial contact it is very annoying. We don't like to have to ask to see facial pics. If a person/couple is making first contact then the contactee should be given access to facial pics straight up and not have to ask for them.
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RHP User
8 years ago
After considering all of the perspectives offered, we have been able to make our choice based on your collective experience which is great, We would like to say thanks to everyone that contributed to this thread, your what makes RHP great for us. Now weather that helps or hinders we will learn later, but for now we can relax and enjoy.. Jay and Amber - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
*whether.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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rupamohan
8 years ago
I assume that hiding face has something to do with online privacy...my experience is people with low privacy needs have at times being unfair with high privacy needs. 1) Respect privacy needs of others. We all are in different situations and this dictates needs. People with young family, Public figures and from minority ethnicity can have high privacy needs. Honest people have nothing to hide or your pic gets mine are NOT very intelligent statement. 2) However if it is an important for you that compatibility means having same privacy needs. Tell this upfront to avoid later misunderstandings. To give an example - we are looking for some similarities with others but not in privacy matters. If we decide to share picture it is based on our assessment of risk. It has nothing to do with you will pass your pictures or NOT. In short passing picture is a risk assessment exercise. It is not a fair trading pic swap exercise. We reserve swap for physical activities. 3) Privacy risk can be related to fake people and / or genuine people who can't be trusted for their ability to keep their online data safe. 4) There are many ways to build trust and sharing picture is just one of it. 5) There are many ways to check physical or mental attraction. Face is just one of them. 6) It is not just face or genitals. For many body pictures and or masked face are useful enough to judge physical attraction in casual liaison. 7) Respect who can judge physical attraction by looking at genitals. However we are not that smart and to us all genitals bits look same.
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