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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Why not try a couples profile ....together....... .. and start slow, in a comfortable environment... like a home or hotel.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  You lost me at "persuade". If you have to talk your wife into it, it's a recipe for disaster in my book. Is there anything she's interested in you could explore further?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  and yes Like DG said a couples profile , that you can both read. Shots of both of you not just your wife, and that she talks to the couples that contact you. Reason is that lots of men put up profiles and its just the guy, no wife in sight that wants to play. have a few social nights with a couple, just to get your wife to relax a bitand then have sex in the same room with each other and no swap then have sex on the same bed, with no swap then see how it goesIf your wife is not bi, then do not force that issue, you if another woman is skilled she may teach you wife a thing or threebut be warnedsome women do a mans job but do it a lot better Golden rule, do NOT drink to much at all and make sure you are on the same page well and truly before you go down this road. be prepared for her to get a shit load more attention than you. LadyT showing a guy how to open Pandora's box...pardon the pun

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Try talking to her.. See what she thinks, as that's usually the first step..

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Why OK feel he need and she doesn't.... Perhaps you need to look at what is currently happening or not happening in your sex life ATM....does she know you are even here,if not as LT said,start with a couples profile, deception can bring you a whole lot of pain xx Q

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  What conversation have you had with her so far? This life is all about trust and communication, and knowing that you will always be going home with your partner. Topics can be introduced such as which male friend would you choose to sleep with if you ahad the chance. If receptive you can push further. If you are past that, it sounds like she may need reassuring that she will always be the one etc. then try a swingers club. They will make you feel welcome and you do not have to do anything but experience stuff. If you do, do not run off with someone and leave her behind. She may then feel you are just doing it as an excuse to sleep with someone else. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  MsSuperFoxy

  12 years ago

  "persuade" anyone....if they don't want to! Sorry OP, no one can persuade another, into something they want or try to change anthers mind on something. If you do, you will add more pressure on your wife and she will resent that and you. Is this about YOU or is this about the two of you? No one here are trained psychologists or trained relationship experts...we can only suggest things..it's up to YOU to make the right choice for both of you. I see disaster ahead on the horizon. Foxy

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  dude its about both of you not just you and please don't be one of those guys that start a couples profile with lots of her photos none of yours and a profile with the box ticked men, women and couples but then say in the profile women and couples only so one sided don't force your wife into doing something you want to do it will only destroy your connection to her if you want to spice things up go to sexy land and like try a little role playing sex in public but let her choose time and place. but you will need a little time and effort never use the word "persuade" again

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Thank you to all for the feedback and input. Have had a talk with the wife and thinking of going to cc club or OSS. We will be going to check out the scene and what happens, we will possibly engage in some sexual activity between ourselves and would like to be watched by others. Is there any bars or night spots in Sydney where people in the lifestyle tend to go out to meet like minded couples? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Both people need to feel comfortable and open to this lifestyle. You also need to have complete trust for each other. And when your sex life is hot hot hot and you're both open to amping it up together with no doubts or hesitation, you both should feel this lifestyle is the next step. Please try not to make her feel guilty, if she does something she doesn't want to do out of guilt, she may regret it. Both people need to be comfortable with having others in their bed. She obviously already knows you want this, so I would honestly suggest heating up your own sex life first. If it's something she wants as a next step, she'll let you know.

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