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first threesum/ bi encounter?

March 07 2012

I have a lovely, sexy girlfriend who is madly in love with me. She is awsome and dedicated. She claims to be bi curious, and we have talked at length about our first threesum. I have had this experience b4, but she hasnt. I am very comfortant and easy going, and not at all jealous type.. I am broadminded, secure in my sexuality, and most keen to broaden her experiences. HOWEVER, I do wory about her, and her emotional reaction to our "3sum". Woeld like to hear from other womaen (30-40) who have recently been through this transformation. I think she is worried that i may like the "new" girl more than her, which not at all even in question. I want HER to have the fun and experience, but she seems to have "cooled off" to the idea, after so much buid up. Thoughts, idea's, potetual partners, please reply back. mick & Mel. xl

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RHP User

14 years ago

The desire you wish to avoid during your encounter, is only temporary for the occasion. . Inferior/superior concerns along with other what-if's are all very well as guidelines to comfort and preferences but you'll likely find, after the event, you'll wonder what the earth you were worried about.

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RHP User

14 years ago

I am verrrry new to this and have the same curiosity and fears as your girlfriend. Pity your in Vic

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RHP User

14 years ago

Hi Shy, a suggestion for you. A set of ground rules first, is a damn good idea. I suggest one of those rules could be, that you don't play with the other woman, just with your partner, for her first time. The other woman and you, join forces to pleasure your lady. That way, she gets to experience another lady, you still get some action (tho with your own partner only). Naturally, the other woman will need to be aware of this rule, and happy to comply.Also, letting your lady know that the main reason you would like this to happen is because you love her, and don't want to deny her, pleasure.Good luck, hope it eventuates and both of you, thoroughly enjoy the experience, and it happens again. The above rule, can just be for the first time, can be dropped for any future encounters. Remember tho, if ALL parties are not 100% comfortable, it shouldn't happen.

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14 years ago

who is looking for this? you or her? she should be the one looking for a lass to play with, not you. if shes cooled off, and become less interested, its possible thats a response to what she may see as 'your' obsession. if she's not 100% into the idea, you may be injecting an element of danger into your relationship by continuing to search...........we'd say to leave it be for a while....and then if she brings it up again.....get her involved, otherwise, pushing her to something she may not want, might end badly, with you pushing her away completely............stepping from fantasy to reality is dangerous, and it cant be done completely safely, if one or the other partner is not 100% ok and comfortable with doing so............and dont forget, that what you see as attractive, she may not, and there is also the possibity that she may see someone who was especially attractive.....as a threat. you'd be the same, in her shoes.

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14 years ago

see my ground rules for a 3sum are that i communicate with the lady first before the male. i have full respect that its her man, in saying that yes im in it for the girl on girl but will certainly oblige with her man if thats how we are going to roll.

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