open relat'ship/play

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It means either of you date and have sex without your partner present. You play as if your partner does not exist but you come home to your partner and live the rest of your life as a committed couple. You dont have sex with others with your partner present.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Open relationships are just that, open to see other people. It differs from swinging in that swingers usually swap partners while they are all present. In open relationships both parties are free to have sex with other people however unlike people who are cheating the spouse/partner knows about what is going on (couples should determine for themselves just how much info is shared). For us we consider our selves a bit of both Swingers/open marriage as we play together and we also play alone, playing alone is something we reserve for special friends and we enjoy hearing all about it when the other gets home i personally don't consider a 'don't ask/don't tell arrangement' to be 'open' that tends to spark my radar as someone who is playing without their partners consent/blessing and doesn't sound in the least bit open to me.Anyway just my 2 cents worth hope it helps,have funMrs GC

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  This could vary from couple to couple. In principle it means that you can seek sexual partners outside of your primary relationship - and most couples will maintain that primary relationship as the one they are committed to. So you might play with someone else - as long as your partner consents to you not being exclusively with them - however, in most cases the "second" relationship is just a temporary one for sex... if you are thinking of being involved with a third person (or fourth, fifth, etc) in a committed relationship also this would be calle polyamorous which is quite rare as humans are predisposed to be exclusive in their commitment (at a given time :-)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I disagree with Im-too-sexy in an open relationship you can see your partner have sex with other people if that is your choice. An open relationship is just that very open. How each couple work their open relationship can be very different but the one this that all open relationships have in common is that their primary relationship is the most important but not always the only relationship. It can mean that some couples date other people, just fuck other people, are able to flirt with other people, seek sex outside of the primary relationship or seek things that they don't get from their primary relationship. Open play is not a term I am familiar with, however at some swinger party I go to this could be the term used for what goes on. By this I mean at some parties it is not a "swap" so to speak, the party goes on and if you wanna fuck someone then so be it (if both agree). There is no need to for all members of the couples to play together be that in the same room or different. So I may play with a male of another couple but my husband does not play with his wife but plays with another couple... if you see what I mean. I guess that is "open play" as it is open to whatever as long as everyone is happy.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'blonde7915'I disagree with Im-too-sexy in an open relationship you can see your partner have sex with other people if that is your choice. Red Hot Pie has a advise on the difference between swinging and a open relationship a extract is below from RHP. "Open relationships seem to suit couples where one or both partners prefer one-on-one sex but with the excitement of various new lovers, whereas swinging suits couples who want to enjoy new lovers together." The full RHP explanation is given http://www.redhotpie.com.au/Article/Being-Open-or-Swinging-941 Our interpertation differs to Blondie if a couple explores new sexual activities / partners together thats swinging it does not have to be partner swapping. For example a couple invites a single both are in the bedroom the couple is engaging in swinging not a open relationship. Even if one does not play the experiance is being shared in real time. If a one on one date, with only one member of the couple present thats a open relationship. It is posiible for couples who swing / are swingers also have a open relationship.

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  Does it really matter what you call it? You enjoy it. You aren't hurting anybody. Does it really matter if it is swinging or open relationship? | At the end of the day everyone's definition is going to vary. Red Hot Pie has their definition which is not the same as others I have read on other websites. When you are with your partner you will define what you will and won't do. When you discuss it with other people you will do the same. Using general terms like 'open relationship' and expecting everyone to the same definitions as you will surely lead to trouble.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'lord_lady69' Does it really matter what you call it? You enjoy it. You aren't hurting anybody. Does it really matter if it is swinging or open relationship? | I would guess the OP just wanted to know how to answer the drop down boxes when you are building your profile thats all, nothing is set in stone. We use to tick open relationship until we found out what it meant then we unticked it because we dont want to play unless same room. We think its good to answer every question where we fit the closest and not leave blanks on your profile.

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'Romancefor4' I would guess the OP just wanted to know how to answer the drop down boxes when you are building your profile thats all, nothing is set in stone. We use to tick open relationship until we found out what it meant then we unticked it because we dont want to play unless same room. We think its good to answer every question where we fit the closest and not leave blanks on your profile. You are right. I didn't think of it that way and we didn't tick that box because it seemed to be a can of worms that we didn't want to open.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  One where the jealousy quotient is zero, One where you don't mind informing your regular partner to get themselves checked for crabs. A self serving realm in which certain elements of a loving, committed or 'standard' relationship values are varied or invalid. A relationship nevertheless. One where you won't be in the shit for cheating. The rest is the agreement upheld by the couple and any parameters they may include to maintain workability over time. Thwarted is a word that comes to mind for me but ...Whatever floats your Boat.

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