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what the hell am i doing wrong???
September 26 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
You sound fine to me Roxxy, but I haven't met you so can't say for sure
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RHP User
15 years ago
Aw... i can feel your frustration and annoyance all the way here!! Dont' know enough details of this situation to comment exhaustively, had you met this guy before for a coffee or was this to be the first meeting? I do always think it says more about the honesty and integrity of others to stand you up or not be upfront in saying feelings or excitement levels have changed. From your posts here you're always upfront and i'd expect you don't hide too much or pretend to be a shy little wallflower when conversing with others lol. One can only assume you are too much of a woman for some to handle, but this is their loss and certainly not yours!! Not sure this has clarified much for you, but don't let it keep a good, feisty woman such as yourself down, you deserve respect, fun, great sex and not having your time wasted. best of luck Lotus xo
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'bjuice44'You sound fine to me Roxxy, but I haven't met you so can't say for sure hun what can i say to you but WOW where you been hiding lol...sorry i am the person i come across as here...im me...the only difference is im told im not as fat as i say and im shorter than i seem...but who knows lol roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'lotus23' Aw... i can feel your frustration and annoyance all the way here!! Dont' know enough details of this situation to comment exhaustively, had you met this guy before for a coffee or was this to be the first meeting? I do always think it says more about the honesty and integrity of others to stand you up or not be upfront in saying feelings or excitement levels have changed. From your posts here you're always upfront and i'd expect you don't hide too much or pretend to be a shy little wallflower when conversing with others lol. One can only assume you are too much of a woman for some to handle, but this is their loss and certainly not yours!! Not sure this has clarified much for you, but don't let it keep a good, feisty woman such as yourself down, you deserve respect, fun, great sex and not having your time wasted. best of luck Lotus xo its not just this bloke...its every single bloke i have met and the worse thing is...i rarely am the first to contact, they hunt me out im sick of being told im great and they cant wait to see me again...just for it to never happen iv heard every excuse you could imagine and some that would make you go..."huh???" like i have just said to the gorgeous bjuice above you...i am what i come across as in the forums, this is me i must be doing something wrong...i just cant work out what thanks Lotus roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
why do you feel you should change who you are or how you appear to others? i wouldnt! i constantly read, 'dont bother messaging me unless you are this or that' type of profiles, i would rather meet anyone who seems interesting and go from there, if someone can truly judge a person from a few lines of self description or a 'well written' message then they are very very clever, or should be burnt at the stake lmao!! perhaps this isnt the site to meet respectful people? i havnt even recieved a 'no thanks' so what am i doing wrong hahaha
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RHP User
15 years ago
Unfortunately I haven't met you yet, though would like to, and I agree with the lovely Lotus. From your forum input I know that you're a person who lives life honestly, a person who knows that bullshit takes up too much emotional space and there is no place in your life for it. As I see it, not very many people can face the truth as you do. And they run because they find it confronting. Don't ever change this, because it's very much a part of you being true to yourself. Having said that, can I just say YAY ROXXY! The fact that you are pissed off that you find yourself WAITING and consequently wasting your time....is good. Your bullshit radar is kicking in - but I do understand, "NO" is a lot harder to say when the bullshit comes in words of affection and the lure of a fun night in the sack. Keep smiling Jx
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RHP User
15 years ago
You poor woman, I wish I was there to give you a hug, although if I was there to give you a hug then this problem might be solved. You are an awesome and desirable woman, probably to much woman for these these men that live in their cyber fantasy land who can't actually get out from behind the computer screens. We need a cheap fortnightly transport service between two isolated abodes.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Wrong? Here's what you are doing wrong.... blaming yourself. There's just no call for it. No need to look within. Instead you should be looking for someone with a wicked sense of sexual adventure to compliment your own. You wont find that person waiting around all weekend bebe. I know..... I'm a fuken practical bloke aren't I! HUgs and snogs Stalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree with Stalky...the ONLY thing you are doing wrong is blaming yourself for other peoples shortcomings!! I also agree with the lovely Lotus (she always gives great advice)! Roxy hun, there is nothing wrong with you at all!! If you were the one not turning up...then there would be a problem. You are who you are and you never hide that fact!! You have to look at this realistic hun...YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM!! Sometimes we have to go through the crap to find the good ones! Don't ever give up and if they shit in your face (so to speak), then make a rule of NO SECOND CHANCES and make them aware of that! Do you cam with them before you organise to meet? I don't mean cyber...Do you actually get to see if they are who they say they are? I find alot of guys back out if I tell them that I won't meet unless I see them on cam at the same time as speaking to them on the phone (so I know 100% it is really them)! I have met some fake guys from this site (they are not the ones in their pics on profile) and was only fooled twice into that. You are a warm, caring person Roxy with the biggest heart of gold that I know. I know that we have only spoken on MSN (bloody thing is out of action, but admin is looking into it) and I can tell what sort of person you are. Don't let these turkeys get you down. They are not worth you losing your confidence over! Hugs and kisses xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
If you're trying to meet men through RHP, you've got to change your profile, girl! You might also consider whether your attitude plays a part - saying in your profile that "all men are arseholes that dont deserve me" may be spilling out into your meets with men whether you met them here or not. I know it's tough, but we've all had to pull ourselves out of that ditch at one point or another. I'm not having a go at you - you asked for help and I'm trying to offer something concrete and practical.Take comfort - whenever I've felt down about not having someone fun to play with, someone seems to pop up out of nowhere. Get positive and walk the world with open eyes and mind - you're sure to be pleasantly surprised! Good luck and have fun!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Listen here lady <<<<<<< did the sun come up today ???? if yes then its another day and there is no point in looking back at what you may have missed out on or how wonderful this ( looser dude that didnt bother to turn up ) may or may not have been ,,,,,,,,,,There isnt anything you can do about people that just dont play faie and hosnety isnt in their nature ,,,,,,The Wonderful lady in you that shines out through forums to us all and to the ones that have met you ( and tell how wonderful you are ) has a quick and cheeky wit and is fun and enjoyable ,,,,,,,so stop feeling sorry for yourself and feel sorry for those that have not met you yet as it is their loss not yours the man will come to you in good time just smile and enjoy each day until then and lookout man when he finally arrives as for the reasons for not showing I think that would be a good thread for forums Andy xxxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
If they like that! You dont want them anyway! So u want a friend with sexy benefits to catch up once a fortnight! non committed fun! Maybe they wont more! and they think you just want friends with benefits so they shy away! You really need to spend some time in melbourne! You a beautiful soul Roxy! visualise a lover! wish hard enough make it happen! Hope you get some hot sex soon sweetie you deserve lots of orgasms! jensta xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'jensta' If they like that! You dont want them anyway! So u want a friend with sexy benefits to catch up once a fortnight! non committed fun! Maybe they wont more! and they think you just want friends with benefits so they shy away! You really need to spend some time in melbourne! You a beautiful soul Roxy! visualise a lover! wish hard enough make it happen! Hope you get some hot sex soon sweetie you deserve lots of orgasms! jensta xxx I agree
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RHP User
15 years ago
The problem is obvious... if they're contacting you, after reading your profile where you say men, leave me alone, then they're obviously idiots, maybe a bit light on mental capacity. So, do NOT get involved with any guys who contact you based on your profile! :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
You know I adore you and love how we are there for each other to chat.. Got to tell you hun..got nothing to do with you worried about your weight. I got stood up too last weekend and it is not the first time either.. We all do .. guys n girls. Now I had met this guy through chatroom. Seen each other on cam. So we knew what each other looked like. While i am waiting on a call from him to say he one his way down.. i peek in chatroom..well.. He is on there chatting up my girlfriend who lives in Qld! hehe... don't worry ...We got him in shock.. she is on my msn . lol.. Few lil questions from her to him.. Well his shocked face on cam was golden! rofl! He will never get the pleasure to meet me.. He had no intentions to call me to cancel. Only cause he got caught in chatroom he decided to call me with excuses... pffttt. It is the men hun. .. Not you. There are some here that just love the cam n chat and no guts to meet. Just move on n go NEXT.. Cause there are plenty of fish in this RHP pool.. And there are ones for us out there that will rock our world.. So go fishing hunny! Love n kiss to you sweetpetite41xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well, talk about mixed messages. Roxxy I feel for you but sometimes we must live with the choices we make. I know you must have your reasons but gee, after reading your profile, I would run a mile in the other direction. Maybe a re-write of that profile saying what you really want will help. Good luck with your journey ! Treat
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RHP User
15 years ago
Fair dinkum Sweetpetite, what a dufus that fella turned out to be! Another one for the "Beieve it or not" files.Oh and gardener, when are you going to turn this cyber attraction for Roxxy in to a real meet?Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
i changed my profile to what you see today because i was sick of the men sending me shit i was hoping the men that seen it would take the hint and leave me be....yes they have and i thank them for that i havent had any new mail from anyone for 6 weeks or so and thats good...apart from one from the forums, the cheeky bugga lol but i have had every profile imaginable...from i want sex come get it, to this is what i want and thats it, to the wonderful profile that will be forever known as the "fuck off" profile...so i have had them all and i still got crap on ever single one of them so it isnt the profile...it cant be and that only leaves one thing....me thanks guys xx roxxy...oh Stalky babe, if someone tells me they are coming to visit then yeah i will sit at home and wait for them to come...cause id never not be there if im told someone is on their way
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RHP User
15 years ago
they find your profile a challenge?? We all know how men love the "chase"..maybe they want to prove to themselves that they can get the "unattainable"? I could be way off base here...but it has been something on my mind since I read your post Roxy. I say in your profile show who you really are...not what has happened to you with men in the past. Let that all go...they aren't worth the free rent in your head (as you are allowing them to "live" there)! Wake up in the morning...take a deep breath in and give thanks for the great day ahead...and keep on truckin' (or fuckin') so to speak lol. You can do it hun xo xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Dont worry too much it will turn round for the better, lots of fish in the ocean!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I know you to be a warm and wonderful person...as do all of us that have had the pleasure of meeting you. I can do what the others are doing and spout platitudes of how it is not your fault...thier loss...yadda yadda yadda and that is not gonna help one iota. Firstly, stop putting yourself down. Attitude does come through in emails, chats and phone calls as well as everyday conversation. You are not FAT! A little extra padding, cuddly yes but not fat. Secondly ask yourself what it is that you really want. Just sex? Friendship only? FWB, Relationship? Once you work out what you want then set about getting it. With one little piece of advice to keep in mind :- You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. This does not mean lie and not being true to yourself. But the male ego is a fragile thing at best. (Sorry Guys) Happy hunting. Hugs and kisses and cheer up Sweetie. Fionabee
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captainkaos
15 years ago
I think that alot of people need to grow up. I have been stood up twice. One of which i had a feeling that she wouldn't show up. The second at least told me that she wasnt going to be there but it was after weeks of chatting and making a dates only to postpone at the last minute. The last date that we organised, she just texted saying "Cold feet". This was about an hour before we were going to meet. You might be thinking "So what?" At least she messaged. You could be right in a way but i had been looking forward to meeting this person for weeks. I had been feeling anxious for the last couple of days because i couldn't wait to meet her. The worst part was that she wouldn't even chat or answer her phone. Now I am no stalker. I just wanted to chat and maybe persuade her to change her mind. If she still didnt want to, well, no hard feelings.
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captainkaos
15 years ago
I thought about calling her up again just to see if she might change her mind but as i said earlier, she probably needs to grow up so it is not worth persuing.................. No i am not bitter. lol.
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Almost_Ready
15 years ago
Gee Roxxxy what a dumb forum! Now pick ya self up .. wipe that sulky look off that georgous face & dry those BEAUTIFUL lil eyes!! Now what ya need is a good STIFF ...um .....drink, (the other will sort itself out)... forget what was, think about what may be & dont worry about what you cant control. You will find the right person sooner or later but in the mean time dont let the wrong ones get to you... Now go outside & read what it says on your fender! Cheers Oldog
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RHP User
15 years ago
i started this in september and its now december and im still waiting for the same man to find some time lol any other men out there what to meet up??? roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey Roxy.I'd love to offer a hug or a kiss (you decide where, hun) but traveling right now and at this time of year is a problem..... at least for me.I know that I've made the offer before back when I was on as ShuttleZ but there you go. No-one to blame but myself....(well, that and is was the He in a couple at the time too. Meh)Can any of you decent guys here help?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' i started this in september and its now december and im still waiting for the same man to find some time lol any other men out there what to meet up??? roxxy He is taking too long roxy... move on ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
do you need a man or do you just want a man ???? and as you have told me many times before most are just too far away anyhow and if any are close enough to actually meet you and they dont then it is their bd call not yours Andy xxxx
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