M54

what women want

May 28 2023

yup. "women" are actually a classified group of human beings comprised of actual individual persons. "women" don't want anything. The individual woman wants what she wants when she wants it. I know this is obvious, but how tempting is it to generalize? So I don't get lucky. Either I don't get noticed, or I don't notice getting noticed, & to me being a true gentleman is important: if I invite you out for a meal, I'll want to pay, regardless of what you have or haven't got between your legs; I hold the door open for anyone. (in fact, I've slowed right down on opening the door for women - I kind of lag behind a little & let them do it - because I hate the awkwardness of misread intent). So unless I get an unmistakably clear signal from a lady that she likes me - & that doesn't need to be as unsubtle as one lady did, much to my delight but no so much the other road users if they realized what danger they were in - I'll assume they're just being nice. A couple of my girlfriends have laughed at me for this saying they needed to hit me over the head with a club & drag me home the first time. So if you're a lady, how would a guy like me get your attention in a not-creepy way if I liked you, but wasn't sure about your signals, even if you weren't actually sending any. I'm generally too self-aware to approach out of the blue, & that gets worse with dutch courage for me, not better. The nice guy mushy beta doesn't exactly pull the chicks :( Thing is I'm just as much an *sshole as they guys the ladies go home with - if only I could let them know! I'M AN *SSHOLE too! LOL - disclaimer: *ssholes ain't *ssholes.... each *sshole is an individual too...

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RHP User

3 years ago

Hope you can open this 2010 newspaper link. It is an article that speaks to your post. https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/why-some-men-dont-get-laid-20101028-174b1.html

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Ex007

3 years ago

Firstly the advice I give all people is to be true to yourself always. If anyone has an issue with it they are not for you and let them walk. Secondly nothing and I mean nothing is more attractive than a person who has a true sense of self. Thirdly a man walking up to a woman, introducing himself and asking “Would I be able to have a minute of your time?” is not creepy. An aligned masculine man who leads in life and conversation is a rare find and they are so desired by women. I've answered your question somewhat and have a lot more which may assist you but I don't wish to write a novel here. You're welcome to DM me.

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Libertine001

3 years ago

I think you're overthinking things way yoo much... Libertine

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RHP User

3 years ago

All you can do is be you. There isn't a one solution fix it all for getting people to like you. If someone said you have to fight every dude in hand to hand combat would you do it? Especially if you're a pacifist? Seems counter intuitive if you do something someone tells you if goes against the grain of your personality. If you've had girlfriend's in the past then reflect on how that worked. Not every female is going to want you...find the ones that do.

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Mrs_Deep_Love

3 years ago

I recently heard this in a podcast and it sounds about true. Men find 60% of women sexually attractive. Women find 20% of men sexually attractive. That's probably why sometimes it seems like an impossible task.

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EarthQueen

3 years ago

Don't use words like beta to describe yourself ...or alpha either. It's fine to be nice just combine it with a bit of confidence.

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RHP User

3 years ago

Out of all you wrote, all I got was that you are seeking external validation to what you are doing. Drop that and understand what you are doing and where you are is ok. Stop following what society dictates to you, and if you like a woman then ask her out. If you aren't sure then ask her out. But also drop the attachment to the outcome. Start loving yourself and once you truly do t won't matter if someone wants you back, because you've already got everything you need. Oh and put up a damn profile pic.

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madotara69

2 years ago

I’m probably not sophisticated enough to keep up with or even the attention span for patriciatel hirachiel marksking equilibrial outcome and fair dinkum non pseudo feminists qualities to be in touch with. ‘I’m just a man in the middle of a complicated world No where to run No where to hide’ Humming along to the Bee Gees, Don’t mind me But I believe what women want generally aside the extreme’s And I would say too them extreme wanting womenfolk… ‘Better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it’ I think, if you have a great big genuine smile Whatever you might plan saying something cleverly, you stand in with high chances likely too fuck it up then Fuck it up well and truly trying to fix it. In that case because you have her feeling safer even safe because she knows you are genuinely smiling and stupidly amusing perhaps even piqued her curiosity’s to laugh If she laughs and smiles, her eyes will sparkle and I think women in general want to feel safe with a friend she can laugh with and the sparkles from her smiling eyes is for you to maintain and remind yourself to maintain regularly, string on your thoughts finger, calendar, tattoo anything until it becomes second nature. You be her best friend always, she needs that to be importantly and genuinely honoured. IMHO. Mado Mado Tara xx

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RHP User

2 years ago

Just to be clear, So, what is a woman ?

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NIRVANA123

9 months ago

Perfect Saturday Lusts:- I believe whether a woman is seeking a relationship or not... wants/to an extent needs to engage her mind.. How does this sound Ladies? Like naughty squirels gathering nuts, shop for the nights dinner and desert bootie. Get the daily essential chores out of the way so we can play! Off to the beach or bush to walk, swim of trek whatever takes our delight; Come home to chill to favourite beverages, listen to favourite tunes, prepare that bootie either together or.... one watching using some imagination 😉 After dinner perhaps a naughty game... dirty scrabble? Only the most dirty words Then desert... maybe one feeds the other blind folded... turn about is just fair 🤣 Then well there is the rest of the night to play, put some of those dirty words into play, including a bed picnic.... Now all of this is just one suggestion.... for a perfect Play Saturday feeding the Mind and Body... 🫦

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9 months ago

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